(Closed) How many bridesmaids are to many?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

personally, i think anything north of 6 is pushing it.  i mean, think of it this way: how would you feel if you felt you were close to the bride but you weren’t picked to be one of her 11 bridesmaids?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think 14 is definitely too many people to be standing up with you, especially if you are also going to have 14 groomsmen! How big is your guest list?

I personally think 8 should be the max (including maids/matrons of honour)

We had 4 BMs and 4 GMs and our bridal party looked pretty full!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it completely depends on whether you can afford it, there is no such thing as too many, it’s more how it affects you and your day, I personally am only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Flower Girl

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

im having 5…I think I over did it. I wanted 3

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh wow!! Before I read your post, I was going to say I think 4-5 is the maximum.  It starts looking like a big party up there when you have a lot of people.  I had 3 (including MOH) and it was pretty stress-free for everyone!  So of course I’m going to say 14 people is A LOT of people up there.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never understood how another Bridesmaid or Best Man can be added “to even things out.” To me it reduces how important the other BMs have been to your life. To me, there is no number that is “too little” or “too much.” A Bridesmaid or Best Man should be picked based on how close she is to you, and what she has done to shape you as a woman in life. To leave such a special person out just to have a smaller number is ridiculous…and to add someone who doesnt meet those standards, just to make numbers even, is also ridiculous. In my opinion, BMs should be chosen based on your friendship with them and who they are as human beings, not on numbers!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Ask your inner circle, not every female friend and family member. I honestly think that having a cast as large as the one you’re considering doesn’t make the group as special as it would be if it was your very closest friends.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Traditionally it’s 1 attendant for each side for every 50 guests, so you should have 4 to 5 girls total standing up for you.  Nobody really follows that, but 14 is a lot. You will go crazy trying to coordinate so many people. It is okay for people you love to be guests only. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Anything above and beyond 5 BM’s that includes the Maid/Matron of Honor and JR BM’s

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

You could give some of these people other responsibilities, like a reading or singing/playing an instrument during your ceremony?

I agree that coordinating 14 people will be REALLY hard! I had a very hard time coordinating 4 people, nevermind 10 more lol! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My husband was in a wedding were the bridal party was 20 in total. I think anything past 5 is pushing it.

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