(Closed) How many bridesmaids are to many?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Just cut down to your matron and maids of honor. 3 is a great number. Then all your girlfriends can hang out together as guests and have lots of fun. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sjlberry:  yeah – it’s your wedding so you should have whoever and however many people you want up there with you. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a bride who had 10+ BMs. It wasnt hard to coordinate at all. Unless someone has been a part of a bridal party that large and can tell you a negative experience (I doubt many have even been a part of that large of a wedding) …most are going to be against it bc it just sounds crazy to them, but they dont have that experience. My friend had a ton of good friends! That was fine. We had a blast!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrsSonthebeach:  Agreed! Use the 3 MOHs only and let the other girls enjoy your wedding as guests. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Why not just have your matron and two maids of honor? I’m only having two attendants, both matrons of honor, and I am big fan of the small bridal party- a lot less drama that way!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

I only wanted 5 bridemaids thats it but my fiance might have to add another person because of his indecisiveness so I might have to have 6 now. I feel the bigger the bridal party the more organization and effort goes into things and frankly I dont want to deal with that.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am having 7 and that is after I cut out a few girls because I recently went to a wedding and they had a wedding party of 40. Everybody and their grandma was in that wedding literally. By the time the 10th couple walked down the aisle everyone was bored. They still had 10 couples to go plus the bride. Just everyone walking was longer than the ceremony.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have 7. I even thought that was too much. I generally think bridal parties get laughable once there are 10 on each side. Plus, you need to purchase gifts for all of these people and that in itself is really expensive.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Knowing what I now know about bridesmaid-wrangling, I would absolutely say that ny more than 4 is over-kill.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I’m having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I think it’s too many. I’m not having any Flower Girl or RB. I agree with just cutting it back to your MOH-s.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with cutting back to you MOHs, and then giving the other special friends jobs such as readers, program/greeters, guest book, etc. Let them sit in your reserved rows if they’re that special to you, but there’s no way I’d attempt to have 10-14 BMs, or a wedding party of 25+ in total! We had 5 each, and that was plenty for our 350 person wedding. Sticking to 3-4 is my recommendation.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i wouldn’t know, im having 13… LOL.

plus my sister, which is Maid/Matron of Honor

My group of closest friends from school includes all these girls. sure there are some closer than others or that i call first when i need them, but still, we are a very tight group and i just couldn’t bare to pick out from them. So they’re all in 🙂 actually they were first 15, but 2 can’t make it to the wedding because they are living out of the country and it was impossible.

I really don’t care what others think, I love all these girls and need them by my side that day. 

i did decide to not do same dresses as i think it would visually be crazy, so they get to pick their own dress in a nude-blush tone and accesories in white-pearl-gold-beige-champagne. 

 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

wow, that’s a lot! i was going to say over 5/6 is a bit much….but if you have a tight bond with every one of these girls and genuinely want them standing up there with you, then more power to you.

just keep in mind that the more bridesmaids you have, the more opinions you’re going to have to listen to when it comes to dresses, shoes, budget, scheduling, etc….and that has the potential to create more drama and frustration. and as someone else pointed out, buying gifts for all these girls is going to be pricey.

i have 3 bridesmaids. for me, that works. drama has been minimal and i haven’t had to bend over backwards trying to please everyone. my church wedding coordinator was surprised (and i think relieved) that my bridal party was small. she said it was going to make everything so much easier!

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sjlberry:  It’s definitely a personal opinion… but since you asked… I think more than 5/6 looks weird. I feel as though you’re supposed to choose those few lifelong friends/family members… not your whole group of friends.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well, I was just going to have 6.  My sisters, my fave cousin, my future step daughter and one of my bff.  I have four other Bffs and I kept thinking about my wedding pics and the fact that they weren’t going to be in them.  I just imagine my day without them standing by my side.  So now I’m up to 10.  As far as I’m concerned there is never to many or not enough. 

They are my sister from another mister.   I can call all of them at 3 in the morning to help me bury a body, well except for one she’s an attorney we’ll leave her out so she can represent us if we get caught. LOL.  If deep down in your heart these are the people you want standing there with you, I say go for it!!

Welcome and Happy planningSmile

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just remember, the more you have, the more opinions and potential drama there is!  I agree with  @mrsSonthebeach:, I’ve read that you shouldn’t have more than 1 attendant for every 50 guests.  At your numbers, you’re talking over 650 guests!

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