(Closed) How many bridesmaids are to many?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’d like to revise my statement.  i have 6 and it feels like too many, so i’d say 5 tops.  the coordination is exponentially difficult the more girls you add!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have 6 and I think that’s pretty much the limit!

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Let me tell ya, I had 7 and for your own sanity, it’s just too many!!

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m having 5 and I thought that was alot!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think more than 6 is a lot. We have 8 girls and 9 guys right now. We had asked a lot of people early on and we couldn’t decide who to pick from. Even though I feel like we have too many I still wouldn’t want to lose any of them as attendants because they are important to me. I think the biggest problem with too many attendants is making sure you have enough space in your venue to accomodate that many standing up (unless you are having a full mass where they can sit). The other problem is cost of gifts for everyone. That adds up quickly!

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have eight including the Maid/Matron of Honor and it has been hard. 16 (the whole party) is a huge number to deal with. bouquets, boutineers, gifts, fitting everyone in limos, etc.

I wouldnt go higher than 8 Bridesmaid or Best Man, maybe 10!

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@maggiemay0811:  Wow I didn’t even think about transportation and flowers and stuff! What about also getting ready in the morning? 14 girls all getting ready in a bridal suite would be madness lol! And who’s going to pay for their makeup and hair?

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@DeathByDesign:  yes getting ready as well! We are all getting ready in the bridal suite and Im crossing my fingers that the nine of us as well the two mothers fit! 

And my parents are paying for makeup and hair as well as a spa day the day before (that was an adventure within itself- trying to find a spa that could accommodate nine of us) for all of us so thats got expensive very quickly! 

Im a sorority, so I have TONS of girlfriends I wanted to use plus four sisters (that includes the in-laws,etc) I needed to use so I am having a of friends do readings, pass out programs, etc. 

People are just honored to be included in your day! 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I had seven, which seemed like a lot, but really wasn’t. I was 36 when I got married last year – I’ve had a lot of years to make some rally fantastic friends. I started out with 6, but when one of my besties from Australia decided to come for the wedding, I couldn’t not have her as a bridesmaid as well. Just so honored that she wanted to travel all that way for the wedding!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t read everyone’s posts so sorry if this was already addressed but with so many how is everyone going to get hair/makeup done before the wedding. Would you py for that because that would be expensive. Also is you FIanole to find 14 to stand up for him? We arehaving four each which is perfect for us.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Tina.Baker:  For our wedding I told the girls they can get their hair done professionally if they want to or do it themselves. I’m doing my own hair, but I’m going to make appointments at the salon my Future Sister-In-Law works at for anybody who doesn’t want to do their own. I’m letting them choose how they want to wear it so that helps quite a bit. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OMG I could even imagine trying to coordinate that many schedules or contacting that many BM’s for misc things. I would say 5 max. 

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would say 10 has to be the limit and that’s including matrons/MOH/whatever for both sides. Even that would be CRAZY though that means you’ll have 23 people up there once you include you and the Fiance plus the preist/minister/whatever.

Post # 45
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Worker bee

I’m only planning on having 3 or 4 but my Future Sister-In-Law is having 10 and I know it was hard for her to even cut the list down to that many. She has a massive family and lots of friends.

Post # 46
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Helper bee

Others have mentioned the issues of expenses for getting ready, trying to coordinate that many women, etc. Those are the huge factors that I think speak to the problem of so many attendants.

Also, do the math. If you have 15 on your side (10 + 2 + 3 according to the original post), and assuming your Fiance has as many on the other side since you seem to be fond of the matching idea, that’s 30 people for a 200 person wedding. That’s 15% of your guest list trying to squeeze in beside you at the altar.

I guess if you’re going to go that route, the plus side is that you don’t need to a venue that can actually seat 200 people…

It’s ultimately up to you, but it does seem excessive for your guest list numbers. As others have mentioned, you should also see how all of the costs (including gifts) work out with whatever budget constraints you might have.

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