- 14 years ago
- Wedding: September 2008
I’m just about a year away from my wedding. We have been engaged for 7 months, and I am still not decided on how many bridesmaids to have. Our evening wedding will have about 185-200 guests.
I consciously waited several months to ask anyone to be in my bridal party, because I didn’t feel the need to rush and I have heard the horror stories of girls rushing into these big decisions out of excitement and regretting it later.
I started officially asking people a few months ago, and I currently have 5 bridesmaids: two best friends who will share the duty of MOH; my brother’s wife (for whom I was her BM); and two female cousins (for both of whom I was also a BM). I have two more girlfriends that I would like to include, and I know I can’t worry about what anyone else thinks ("seven is too many!" "I only had two bridesmaids and my wedding was bigger than yours!"), but I am still hesitant to make it official.
I have literally been back-and-forth over this dilemma for months. One day I’ll say "five is plenty" but then I feel guilty that my other wonderful friends aren’t included; another day I’ll say "seven it is, who cares about a number!" but I still haven’t been able to ask my last two ‘maids. I am not worried about symmetry, so that’s not even an issue, and my friends are pretty lowkey and have been in weddings before without any conflict, so I’m not even worried about anyone acting out or causing issues.
Everytime I see a photo of a bride with her ‘maids, I now find myself counting how many there are, but I just can’t seem to make up my damn mind!!!
So… how many bridesmaids did/do you have? Was anyone else as conflicted as I seem to be?