Post # 17
Let’s see… I originally wanted close friends but not having his sisters in it was not an option. There was no doubt who my four girls would be. I’ve known 3 of them since elementary school and the other one since Jr. High. We’ve been through a lot together.. good and bad. I too count how many bridesmaids there are in a photo. It’s nice to see some brides have many girls beside them. What I always wonder is will these girls stand by you many years from now.
Post # 18
I’m going to be the freak in those photos. Counting my fiance & I, there are 30 of us in the bridal party! We both have 14 attendants. We’re Irish/Italian so we have large families – and we have lots of life long friends. Our wedding is going to be this August, a Saturday DAY wedding, with about 300 invites.
Post # 19
I’m having the same problem. As of right now, we’re going to have 6 on each side. We narrowed it down from 8. The 6 is excluding a gf of mine that I’ve been friends with since I was 14. We had promised each other that we’d be each others bridesmaid…. but anything more than 6 seems like so much… esp since we’re planning on having just 150-200 people. 🙁
Post # 20
we’ll have about 100-120 people at our wedding… and we’ll have two each. his two best friends, and then his sisters for mine. i couldn’t begin to pick just two from my best friends for my side, so i stuck to family only.
Post # 21
We had one person stand up for each of us, one flower girl, and one ring bearer for our 65 guests. We figured the more people we had to dress, the more of a headache it would be. 🙂 If you’re looking for an average, the "theys" say that one attendant each per 50 guests is about average.
You can have people your really care about as guests at your wedding and still get them involved. Just invite them into the bridal getting ready area for a private lunch, some girl time, and general support.
Post # 22
I’ve got 8 and its possible there will be nine! Its grown huge, but we’re Southern and its a formal affair so it will be fine. I am buying the girls dresses (evening gowns really) though so its getting a bit pricy!
Post # 23
we are having a small ceremony in hawaii -just me and the future hubbs – for that we are not having any attendants.
our 400+ wedding in feb 2009 – we’re having 11 BMs and GMs, i jr Bridesmaid or Best Man & GM; 3 FGs and 1 ringbearer
then we have our godparents – 4 couples, then one couple to drape a veil over us during the ceremony, another couple to light the unity candles and one last couple to drape a cord around us…
hmmm lemme do the math real quick…42!!! 42 people in our ceremony, excluding me and the hubbs…
Post # 24
You can’t worry about what other people think! seriously, you need to remember it is yours and your fiance’s day…..we have 10 bridesmaids, 5 older and 5 younger, a flowergirl, a pageboy and 3 ushers, 15 altogether not including myself, fiane, dad & best man!
We probably did rush into the decision a bit too quick (well, I did, my fiance is easy with the decisions to be left to me) but I just couldn’t decide, so we had them all! I have found dresses really cheap and gorgeous on ebay, so whereas some people wil spend £300 on 2 or 3 dresses, I am spending that on all 10, and they are gorgeous!!! It just means going easy on a few other things instead, like we won’t be having a band as orginally planned, and renting rather than buying then mens suits, anythings possible, and you do what YOU want for your big day!!!
Post # 25
I originally though 5, now I’m thinking either 3 or 4. No one has been asked yet. After spending more time with his spoiled rotten 18yo sister, I know for sure that she can not be part of my bridal party. She has a really good eye for design (and spending money) so I think I’ll ask her to help me with the planning/decorating. Also a long time good friend from out of state may be house party instead of bridesmaid because of long distances and finances.
Post # 26
i estimate our guest list will bw 150-170 and i’m expecting about 130 to show up….
i originally only wanted 4 girls. but after evaulating my friendships….it went up to 6. there is only one maid that i have that i sorta regret, and thats my old college bf. but i asked her more to honor the relationship that we recently had, rather than honor the one we have now.
my Fiance only has 2 guys. we dont care about symmetry either. my 2 brothers + his 2 brothers will be ushers. not sure if i should count them in the grand Bridal Party count or not. 8 bms and gms, and 5 ushers.
Post # 27
I have 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, a ring attendant (adult), a flower girl, and a horn blower. We are having a destination wedding with 30 guests attending, and an at-home reception for 120.
Other than finances being an issue, i’ve heard that you should consider the size of your ceremony venue when you are deciding on the size of your wedding party because 30 people would look really squished in a small church, but 2 attendants would look pretty silly in a huge, dramatic cathedral.
Post # 28
I think you might regret having 7 – that’s just that many more people to coordinate and buy presents for.
Some people might tell you to "honor" them by assigning them tasks like cake cutting and guest book attendant but unless they are crazy about all things wedding, I think that’s more of a hassle than an honor. Unless you truly believe they will be mad at you for not making them bridesmaids I would just invite them and make sure to wholeheartedly thank them for coming and for their gifts. It will be easier on everybody involved!
Post # 29
I agree with Carly and the other posters that say you cannot worry about how it appears. Have as many (or as few) bridesmaids as you want!
I have six bridesmaids for a wedding the same size as yours, but only because there were six girls I really wanted to be bridesmaids. I was not bound by a number at all! But, that being said, my girls are all very different and all have strong opinions, so it can be a struggle coming to a consensus between them, and a smaller number may have been easier to work with.
If you’re on the fence about the last two bridesmaids, you could also consider including them in the ceremony in some other way (most often as readers).
Post # 30
We’re inviting about 150 people and I have 4 bridesmaids. I agree with what pp have said–its your wedding and don’t worry about what others may think–have as many or as few bridesmaids as you want!
One thing that I didn’t think of when I asked my BMs is my additional cost for each girl for random things. I already was planning on buying their dress and an addtl Bridesmaid or Best Man gift, but I forgot about things like Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets, the rehearsal dinner (spot for them and their guest), hair and makeup, hostess gifts. If budget is an issue for you as it is for us, that may be something for you to consider.
Post # 31
To avoid the snarkiness between girls I’m only having 2 , my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law. I have two seperate groups of friends that don’t mesh great and can get to bickering. This way there is not accusing of "favorites" . The one who is helping me the most knows I love her and why i’m doing it this way.Â