Post # 1
We are looking at a reasonably smallish wedding <100 people and trying to work out how many bridesmaids/groomsmen to have?
Neither of us have any sisters, he has 2 brothers and i have one. He would like both his brothers and either 1 or 2 best friends. I only have 1 close female friend. I dont have any close cousins or other family i could ask, and i have other friends, but none of them are really close. All my close friends are male and although it might work for some people, im a bit traditional like that and i dont really want to go down the Man of Honour, Bridesmans etc.
How many did you all have?
Post # 3
I want 2, he wants 3. I think we’re going to end up with 4, hahaha… If I add #3, I kind of feel like I have to add #4 too, since I’m equally close with the two of them. So he’s going to add a fourth as well. Plus that way we get to deal with twice as many people. Yay. (<-sarcasm; sorry)
Post # 4
I had 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man – I have three sisters and wanted them all as Bridesmaid or Best Man but then didn’t want to exclude my close friends so ended with five.
Post # 5
I have 9- call me tacky but I was in a sorority and want to include my closest friends, as does he!
Post # 6
I had a very small party. My bridesmaid was only my Maid/Matron of Honor, my sister, and of course the flower girl. My hubby only had the Best Man, his brother, and the ring bearer.
Post # 7
I have 6 BMs and 2 JrBMs
-3 friends of mine, 1 friend of Fiance, 1 Sister, 1 sister in law
The Jrs are too big to be flower girls – 1 is FI’s niece and the other is my daughter.
The boys are also at 6 with 2 Jrs.
– 2 friends of mine, 2 of FI’s friends, 2 of FI’s nephews and the Jrs are my son and my birthson. (placed for adoption)
Post # 8
I’m having my Maid/Matron of Honor, another good friend as the other adult bridesmaid, and a flower girl (6 years old). Ours is also around 80-100 people. I thought about having my FI’s sister, but we’re not close, and her own wedding is 3 months before mine and I don’t want to add to her stress (or make her feel like she has to have me as a Bridesmaid or Best Man at hers).
My own feeling is — have the wedding party you want! I’ve seen weddings a similar size to mine with 4 or more bridesmaids which was also just fab.
Post # 9
I have 1 Maid of Honor, 2 Bridesmaids, and 1 Bridesman. My fiance has a similar population on his side. We’re not having a flower girl or ring bearer. And we’re inviting about 150 people.
Post # 10
We’re just having a maid of honor, best man, and my 2 nieces and nephew as the flower girls/ring bearer. I think that these days, you can have as many or as few as you want – as long as the people you choose are really those close to you. 🙂
Post # 11
I had 2 BMs and a flower girl. We had 85 people at our wedding.
Post # 12
Mine’s kinda scary-I have eight. I have four best friends, and with my family, my female cousins around my age have always been really close, so if I want include one, I have to include all. So that adds four more…and there we go. Eight.
Post # 13
6 on each side (including honor attendants) & 3 kids (2boys & 1 girl)
Post # 14
I’m having my two sisters (older Maid/Matron of Honor, younger bridesmaid), he’s having his brother (BM) and two friends (GM) and his half sister will be our flower girl.
Post # 15
I had my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 other friends as Bridesmaid or Best Man. Personally, if I were in your situation, I’d just go with your best friend, even if it’s not even. I probably wouldn’t add people just so that the numbers were even. Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is a big commitment, so you might have a harder time asking cousins or other gals you’re not that close with.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’m having 4…Could have gone higher but really wanted to keep the bridal party small, just personal preference…