(Closed) How many bridesmaids is too many?

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Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend that I’ve known since I was 5.  Then my sister, a friend from middle school/high school, a friend from when I went to a different school my junior year of high school (one of the best years of my life.  It was a specialized school for students gifted in math and science.  I made a lot of good friends there.), and a friend from college.  I think it’s a lot but I don’t feel like I could cut anyone out and my Fiance asked to have 5 each of BMs and GMs so he could have all 5 of the guys he wanted (he likes for things to be even).

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have 6.  

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you want someone to be your bridesmaid and share that special day with you, in a special way, then it’s not too many.

I’m only having 2 BMs because I didn’t want to pick and choose between friends, but couldn’t leave out my sisters. I am not doing a Maid/Matron of Honor as I couldn’t pick between the two of them. Honestly, I would’ve preferred none at all but that’s just me. Fiance is having 2 as well, 2 of his friends. I do not think he selected a best man either as they are all equally close and we just don’t really care that much. My wedding is small – 50 people or less.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had 4. I only included my absolute closest 3 friends and my sister (MOH). I could have come up with a larger bridal party but I really wanted the girls to feel special.

 

I was just in a wedding with 12. I couldn’t have handled trying to coordinate my bachelorette/showers/etc with 12 people, but thats me. Also it was really unpleasant trying to get pictures because there were so many of us – couldn’t really fit us (and it was really bad when it was us and the 12 groomsmen).

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am having 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man too! My 2 fsil, my sis, my cousin, and my two bffs.  I really just cant leave anyone out.  My FIs cousin wanted to be a jr bm but she is only 12 and i have never even met her! We compromised so she will be dressed in the same color as the bm and hold my veil as i go down the aisle

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

dunno .. I think once you get into the double digits it’s a bit much. that’s just me though.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

I think over 5 is too many. I just don’t like the way it looks and I am not the type of person who had bridesmaids that I felt obligated to ask…I just asked who I wanted to be there.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have 6 too. I think it’s really as many as you want and can afford. My friend had 13, which was ilke, WOW.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I was in a wedding that had 13 bridesmaids and 13 groomsmen. Plus a ring bearer and a couple flower girls. Pictures took like 3 hours after the ceremony, we had to stand around forever, by the time we were able to eat everything was cold and mushy. Plus we were all wet and gross because it rained during the ceremony and the bride wouldn’t let us move to the covered area (even though all the guests ran off). It was pretty awful, I felt bad because we were all complaining lol. 

When my turn came around it was an easy decision for me: cut the drama and have just my Maid/Matron of Honor. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I think it all depends on the individual. I only had one bridemaid, and I couldn’t imagine having any more – even two would have been too many for me! 😉

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think  more then 10 is to many. I have seen weddings with up to 10 and its FUN!

I wish I had that many girls to ask!

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think 6 is a lot.  5 in my opinion is pretty much standard.  I only had 3 though.. I didn’t want the drama, nor did I want people in it who aren’t really in my life.

I hate when people put girls in it “just because they feel they have to.”

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No hurt feeling here. None. Way too much drama.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

IMO anything over 3 is too many

Post # 46
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Helper bee

I think 6 is too many. 

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