(Closed) How many celebrations are considered TOO many?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Did she plan and throw ALL these parties herself?  Brides and grooms should NOT throw their own engagement parties, showers, or bachelor/bachelorettes.

It does seem a little gift grabby, especially the housewarming AND two showers, especially if she hosted the showers herself.

Post # 4
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t feel like XYZ should have missed out on celebrations just because they fell close together. The fact that most people have a short attention span/memory and don’t put together how many celebrations others have because they are spread out isn’t her problem. I think it is petty that people would care if they are close together. Why should anyone have less because of timing?

Post # 5
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree with your friend, especially if the same group was invited to or felt obligated to, attend them all. There IS a limit in how much you can expect from people, and she went too far, IMO>

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If she expected gifts or threw her own showers, that’s going too far. If she just loves to entertain and threw herself a lot of parties and provided the food/alcohol, and didn’t expect gifts, then more power to her! No one is obligated to attend.

Post # 7
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Excessive IMO.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it would depend on if she hosted the pre-wedding parties (as opposed to someone throwing them for her) and if guest lists overlapped (was everyone invited to both showers and both engagement parties?).  If she hosted and/or had over-lapping guests lists, then I agree with your friend that it’s too much.

For the other parties, I think it’s fine she had them – but I love me a good party.  But if she expected gifts at all of those events as well, then I do think it is excessive.

 

EDIT:  Ooops, we were posting at the same time.  So she hosted her own AND had overlapping guests lists?  That is way too much.

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