(Closed) How many ceremonies are too many?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Wow, that is a bit crazy, but whatever works best for y’all is what you ought to do! I haven’t heard of having 4 ceremonies before, but if that’s what you need, go for it.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Could you just do…

1) quick Justice of the Peace thing and don’t tell/invite anyone

2) see how your parents feel about skipping the Catholic church thing and getting convalidation later

3) chapel ceremony as planned

4) reception only in Costa Rica, no ceremony

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

yeah, I agree with HotChild. do your parents know that you’re going to have a non denom service even if you have a catholic service? or that the only reason you’re having the catholic service is because they’re asking you to? Maybe if you sat down and really talk about the benefits of each way with them, then each take a few days to think about it, and then come back to make a decision together, either they’ll see your perspective or you’ll understand theirs.

I’m not Catholic, but can you do a quicky Catholic wedding instead of the Justice of the Peace thing? Since you’re not going to get the dress, have a party, invite anyone etc anyway? It would still be legally binding – it’s just a matter of whether the church will let you do a 20 minute service or something to make it binding, legally and religously.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

1) awesome

2) maybe see if the priest can perform the ceremony at the chapel?  We were originally planning on having our ceremony at a private school chapel and even though it wasn’t a church, per se, the priest would have been able to do it there. 

3) see above

4) personally, I would skip the vow renewal thing and just do a reception.  You could always do a one-year anniversary thing there or something.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with hotchild’s plan!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

1) totally understandable, lots of people are doing that now

2) and 3) how badly do you not want to have your 65-person wedding in the church?  I was at one where they sat everyone to the choir stalls behind the altar and it all took place there – felt much more intimate than the whole echoing church.  Also, have you thought of having the family Catholic ceremony on Sat night and then just a reception at the university?  And finally, unless the priest who told you that is the only one you can have marry you, I would get a second opinion about having a Catholic ceremony in the chapel.

4) I would go for just a reception.  I wish my second reception were in Costa Rica and not Minnesota!  Nix celebrations at the ruins but have a romantic little photo shoot up there so it’s a part of the wedding photos and memories. 

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