Post # 1
I have a question and I don’t know who to ask. It looks like my FH and I are going to have to move in together and we’re not even close to having all of our Catholic marriage prep done. I would feel horrible having a big church wedding while we were already living together. So what I’ve proposed is having a super small courthouse marriage and then having a Catholic blessing performed a few months later.
Of course I would still want it to be a big party, but would the "wedding" aspect be silly at that point? I mean I love my dress, but how many times could I wear it without feeling a little absurd? And it’s not like we would be introduced for the first time as Mr. and Mrs.
I feel like I’m making too much out of this. No one on either side would try to make us feel bad about it. I guess doing the whole thing twice just feels kind of greedy to me.
Thanks for any input!
Post # 3
I admire that you want to get married before you move in together. But are you doing that for your parents or your own morals? It sounds like you want to do the right thing and want to have a Catholic wedding. The problem is the Catholic Church would still see you as living in sin, until you get your marriage blessed. (If that is important to you.)
To answer your question. Could your first ceremony be very quiet, just the witnesses, without the big wedding dress? Then when you get your wedding blesses you can wear your gown and have the whole reception and shooting match. And feel like the day you got married i fornt of God was your real wedding day.
Of course you said you’d feel horrible about having a big church ceremony after living together… I sounds like it is important to you to do the right thing and have the nice wedding. Why do you have to live together? I think when it’s all said and done, you’ll feel better for sticking to your guns and having that Church ceremony and fancy wedding all in one shot.