(Closed) How many dresses did you try on before finding the one.

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Tried on 1-3 before finding "The One"

    Tried on 4-6 before finding "The One"

    Tried on 7-10 before finding "The One"

    Tried on 11-20 before finding "The One"

    Tried on 20 or more before finding "The One"

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I didn’t try on ANY. I saw one online that I liked, ordered it two sizes too big(to be sure it would fit), had it tailored down, and loved it. I do not recommend this, though, I got really lucky lol. 

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Also, I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time! Maybe take a little break and try again if you have time? Maybe try on something not so traditional to see if you like that instead? 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

    I tried 3 dresses, but I didn’t really enjoy the shopping experience at all. The staff was busy trying to please my sister who was also looking for a dress, and so I had to go out and look for the dresses myself. I did buy the dress but I liked but I didn’t enjoy the shopping.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Is there a bigger issue that’s making this whole process hard for you? Not wanting to get married at all sounds bigger than “I don’t like the way I look in an A-line”.

    *hugs to you*

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    And I tried on roughly around 15. Not to toot my own horn but I surprisingly looked great in every silhouette. Not something I expected going into it, at all. And no I’m not a skinny girl. So I think that made it harder for me. I could’ve walked out with 4 other dresses so I had to refocus on feelings when I put it on rather than how I looked in it. 

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I tried on 20-30 dresses. I’m also short and plus size so there were absolutely frustrations along the way but overall I actually had a great shopping experience. I think you have to be open minded and accept that not everything will look good. It was also helpful for me to go to a couple stores (David’s Bridal was one) where they let me go though all the dresses and pick ones I liked.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee

    I tried on probably 20-30. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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    shortbrokebride :  I’m 5’2 so I feel your pain there. Dresses were not made with the short or curvy in mind. I’m not plus size but with wedding dresses I’m between a 6-8 at the top and 12-14 below so you can imagine how crappy my bridal shopping experience was. All I can say is try to take it easy and give yourself breaks. Do some casual browsing so it doesn’t start to feel like a chore. Not sure if you’re kind of over the wedding planning process, like myself, or over actually wanting to get married. The latter is definitely an issue! Good luck

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    btw I tried on about 15 and didn’t care much for any of them.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper

    I saw a few online I liked, mailed them to myself and tried them on in reverse order of likeiness.  The one I saved for last b/c I wanted it most of all was absolutely the one. My just in case options weren’t even close seconds (though one was pretty great, just a much darker color than I anticipated).  So yeah… 3, which isn’t on your poll.

    ETA: how badly do you need it to be an official bridal gown?  Maybe you’re just not comfortable in that intense of a dress… I know I’d have felt seriously out of place in one.  Have you thought about looking at alternatives to the norm?  I went swing, which was majorly comfy.  Or adding colors, doing a bridesmaid gown instead, etc.  There is no rule that it has to be a wedding dress from a boutique – they just want your $$

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m very fortunate to be naturally slim. I’m also 5’4 but I wanted a short dress for our beach wedding so I didn’t have to worry about everything being too long. The first dress I tried on fit me perfectly and is so comfortable and suits my personality so I ended up getting it! 

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    shortbrokebride :  

    Oh man. I’ve tried on over 35 dresses before I found my dress. Even then, I never had one of those crying, sentimental moments like they do on Say Yes to the Dress.

    Honestly, I found the dress shopping experience a little frustrating too. I have a very boyish frame and I felt like I was a little girl playing dress up in most traditional dresses. I didn’t feel like me.  I started looking at less traditional, more casual dresses but those didn’t feel bridal enough. The dresses that I did like were very expensive and I’m normally a very frugal person. I was completely overwhelmed and conflicted with what I wanted. 

    I told a bridal stylist about my frustrations and she advised that the more dresses you try on, the more difficult it’ll be to find one you love. Try not to overcomplicate things or over analyze and just go with your gut or you will get overwhelmed. At the end of the day, everyone will think you’re beautiful because you’re happy and not because of some detail on your dress.

    She was right and I ended choosing my favorite of the 35 I tried on. It was a preowned version of a dress that I had saved on my Pinterest for a year but couldn’t afford new. I didn’t realize how much I love my dress until I took it home and put it on by myself without any distractions. I’m so happy with my decision.

    I recommend going through the dresses you have already tried on and writing down your favorite things about it and go from there. Maybe go shopping by yourself so you can process how you feel. That helped me a lot! Good luck, bee!

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Girl I feel your pain! I am also a short 18w and in my mind the dresses I thought would look good on me didn’t, and then the dresses I knew my fiancé would want me in I didn’t feel comfortable in. It was a disaster! I went to 6 dress shops and tried on probably 25 or more dresses. I took photos of me in all the dresses and would come home and look at the pics and see if any of the dresses stayed on my mind. The last shop and last dress I tried on I always went back to the photo of, so I ended up going to that shop again, had the consultant pull more dresses. I tried on five more and still went back to the original one I loved. I bought it last week. But holy cow am I Glad its over with. Not fun and super stressful! What type of dress are you thinking of in your head? Chances are I tried on a similar dress and you can see my photo to get an image of what it would look like on a plus size shorty like us lol

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