Post # 1
We invited a handful of my good friends, maybe 12, to my bachelorette party and shower. I’m kind of bummed because nobody’s really coming. So far, there are 6 people coming, including me. So basically just me and 5 of my bridesmaids (one lives in Cali). Two have already told me they don’t plan on drinking very much. So, I’m kinda going, "ok so i’ll be the one getting stupid and that’s it?" And don’t tell me we don’t have to drink to have fun….it’s just more awkward for me if i’m conscious of the fact that i’m the only loopy one at bars and night clubs.
Just wondering how many people made it out for yours. Is 6-7 people the norm? I’m just bummed because my first shower was such a disappointment (awkward, no games, all his family, just uncomfortable in general) and I was REALLY looking forward to hanging out with all my friends, and nobody’s really coming now. I’m pretty sure mom even got us a stripper, haha. We even made the shower and bachelorette party on the same day to make it easier for everyone!
Post # 3
i haven’t had either yet… but i was moh for one of my gf’s and there was 6 of us including her at her bachelorette and we still had a great time! 🙂
Post # 4
Well my showers and bach party were on separate nights, but they all had small guest lists. My wedding shower had about 9 ladies (my husbands mother and sisters didn’t show which kinda hurt my feelings), my personal shower had just my closest friends so 4 and my bachelorette party was in a different city so only my closest friends and their boyfriends were invited.. so a total of 7 girls went out for the bach party.
I personally liked it small.. it kept thing easy and laid back and it was much easier to coordinate with 6 girls as opposed to 12-15.
I wouldn’t worry about it. As long as the people you care the most about are there to celebrate the night with you, you will have the best time. PLUS you will be surprised how your party can grow especially at clubs/bars…. everyone loves a bachelorette party!
Post # 5
It’ll still be fun, but I’m a little sad that so many of my friends can’t make it! And it’s not like I invited the whole world, either. They’re all busy and have things going on, but it just really makes me feel bad because I really looking forward to a "big party". I even made limoncello!
Post # 6
I had probably 6 or 7 friends at my shower (along with a bunch of my fiancee’s mom’s friends and my mom and grandma) and I had 11 girls at my bachelorette party. I can see why you’re bummed honestly. I think the economy is really hurting parties like this and I bet that’s why people aren’t coming and/or not drinking…
Post # 7
I don’t think it matters if you have even 3 guests – you’ll have a great time! I’ve attended showers where it was an intimate 5 people and I’ve also attended ones where there were at least 30 people. It’s all a different kind of fun. Just concentrate on those guests that did make it, they’ll make plenty of memories for you.
Post # 8
I know how you feel. I don’t have a big Wedding Party and decided not really to invite extra people. So altogether it’s my sister plus 4 others. One of them just had a baby so I did not expect her to come. Another basically told me that she’s travelling too much and even though she’s free she doesn’t feel up to coming. I travel a lot more than her so to me it wouldn’t be a big deal, but I know that I have to respect her needs. It still feels like a bummer, but just think how great it is that the people who are coming are the ones that are making the extra effort. It might be more fun having it be a bit smaller and with the people who really want to put in the time to come.
Post # 9
I was a little bummed more of my friends couldn’t make it to my bachelorette party, either. I only invited 10, including me, and at the last minute, three dropped out – so we just had 7. But you know what? Everyone who wanted to be there was there, and we had a really fun time! More girls does not necessarily mean more fun. I felt like I got to bond with each girl that night. And I didn’t drink as much as I thought I would. None of us were really drunk – we just had fun dancing and hanging out, and that ended up being fine with me. Your bachelorette party doesn’t need to fit a stereotypical description. It is as fun as you make it.
Post # 10
I was bummed for a second when a couple friends could not make my bachelorette party. It would have been 10 including myself, but it ended up being 8 total. Once I got to the party and started playing games I forgot about how small my group was. But really it was a good amount. It would have been way to hard to try to keep track of the girls and the limo would have been more expensive. You will forget all about it once your night starts!! Forget about those people that cant make it and party it up!
Post # 11
Don’t feel bad…the larger the group of people, the harder it is to keep everyone together. I should know..I went to FI’s friend’s fiancee’s bachelorette party two winters ago and there were about 15 or 16 girls and I got left at the bar b/c I went to the bathroom and everyone else was drunk and there were so many of us it was hard to keep track of everyone! Enjoy your party with the people who come, it will give you a chance to connect with everyone and have a great time without worrying about who is where and who got too wasted and who’s missing and who’s hooking up and blah blah.
Post # 12
2 of my friends came to my shower. They sat in the back, talked to no one and left.
None came to my bachelorette party.
Post # 13
Oh i feel better now! I know it’s still going to be fun, but I didn’t think that 10 people would be too bad. I guess with just 6 or 7 of us we can cram into one hotel room. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor to keep it under $100 per person which sounds completely feasible now, especially since my mom is footing the bill for everything to *ensure* i have a great time. A limo would be really cool though…hmmmmm. And safe. I don’t want people drinking and driving at all.
Post # 14
My bachelorette party was a group of 6 friends. Several of my close friends live on the opposite side of the country and couldn’t make the trip for a variety of reasons. At first, I was upset and not really looking forward to the party. But I ended up having a great time with the girls who were there because they made the effort to make the night special and fun, and I think that is what is important.
Post # 15
Oh, no, nobody came to yours?! I would have =(
Post # 16
My bachelorette was about 10 of my good friends. I felt like it was small and intimate, but that’s what I would have wanted anyway. My shower was mostly FMIL’s friends, but my mom, sisters and 2 of my friends came… so I was fine with the outcome. Plus it gave time for mom and Future Mother-In-Law to meet. For a second I was bummed that so many of my friends live in the Bay couldn’t make it… but really, they have busy lives too!
Have a great time, and don’t focus on numbers… just the fact that your best friends are there celebrating with you!