(Closed) How many guests and why?

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How many guests will you have at your wedding

    less than 25 very personal wedding

    25-75 intimate wedding

    75-125 small wedding

    125-175 normal wedding

    175-250 big wedding

    greater than 250 huge wedding

  • Post # 3
    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are having 120, I chose our venue, in part, because it limited the amount of people that we could invite.  If we invited “everyone” that we would have like, it would have been around 250.  250 is, personally, too much work and expense for us.

    Post # 4
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    We wrote out all our ‘must invites’ and then had a ‘wish list’.  We ended up with about 160-ish invited and had 120 at the wedding.

    Guest list is one of my biggest regrets from the wedding.

    There were about 10-20 guests I ended up NOT inviting (I was super stressed about head count and finances) and I’m still kicking myself for not including them..


    Post # 5
    5517 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    50 here! inviting more.. we are having a Destination Wedding.. so I expect just a few to travel 🙂

    Post # 6
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We originally invited 100….

    had 80 RSVP yes and confirm…

    and just over 60 actually show

    Post # 7
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    we invited 55 so far we wanted a low cost and intimate wedding and the place we booked can only really hold 50 so hoping some dont bring their guest xD

    Post # 8
    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We’re up to 101 on the list, but only expecting 60 or so as it’s a kind of a destination wedding.

    Post # 9
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We decided to keep it to less than 48 guests – we invited 49 (including grand-parents we knew couldn’t come, and a couple of people after the first ‘no’s’). We’re having 45 people total, including us – so 43 guests. We decided to do that for several reasons:

    1. I wanted a courthouse wedding, Fiance wanted a real ceremony, so we compromised with a small wedding.

    2. We only wanted our closest friends and family due to my aversion to being a guest at weddings where I’ve barely gotten to say congratulations to my close friends who are getting married. With <50 people, we figured we might actually get to talk to all the guests!

    3. Budget. Our small budget (initially $4k, increased to $6k when we realized how expensive photographers and caterers are!) will go so much further with just a few people.

    We occasionally have ‘guest regret’: where we wish we could invite someone (I’m kind of regretting not inviting my cousins, Fiance has regrets over some friends) – but, overall, we’re psyched about the small personal feel…

    Post # 10
    2904 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Normal-big wedding.

    How did we do it? We guessed 125-150 based on what my parents invited to theirs.

    So I got a ballroom, and they had two–one with a capacity of 500 and one with 200. The smaller one (same $$) has crystal chandeliers and is GORGEOUS so I picked that one.


    AND THEN we did our guest list.  310. SHOOOOOOOT!  (Big families.)


    So, 230 on the A list, 80 on the B list. We’ll see–I am really hoping to invite the whole B list. It is out of town for most–so we may have only 50% of the people show.



    Post # 11
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    200-250.. LARGE greek family. marrying into a filippino family.

    and we even cut that down from 475!


    yup. it’s ganna be big.

    Post # 12
    6890 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We were shooting for 100 but it will probably be about 110. Initially we thought 85 and then kept thinking of people we felt we wanted there. We had a rule “No one we don’t know” and so on. It’s small enough to not be overwhelming but large enough that we incorporate everyone we want to. There’s no way in hell I would go over 120. That was my invisible line. We wanted to keep it feeling intimate and not go over budget, mainly.

    Post # 13
    8351 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We invited 50; including the wedding party, but we knew a lot of guests wouldn’t be able to make it, for various reasons; one of which, we planned a Thursday wedding to keep within our budget. We ended up with 24 guests and it was perfect. Any more and I don’t think it would have been as enjoyable. We got to visit with everyone and everyone had a good time.

    Post # 14
    241 posts
    Helper bee

    100 because it’s all I know

    Post # 15
    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We invited around 100 people, almost all family but there were a handful of friends. We knew that at least 25 were not going to be able to come, most are FI’s family from midwest who don’t have enough money to travel. (We wanted to invite them because we didn’t want to leave them out in case they could come.

    59 people is the final count of guests that have said that they are going to make it.

    We only wanted to invite people who are close to us. Also money was a factor.

    Post # 16
    3226 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We had 22! I made it work,even though I probably have the hugest family out of ALL OF Y’ALL! heheh

    I wanted to have a nice wedding, but not spend a million dollars. Plus, I am kind of shy – I wanted to keep it low key and only invite those who really care!

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