Post # 1
So thought it would be interesting to see how you came up with your number of guests – we hit that first and then the budget and then doubled the number of guests and upped the budget accordingly and then realized we might need to triple that number and (which would be 6x’s the original number) and decided no – we want something that feels very intimate and personal.
So originally we wanted 30 ppl (we must have been smoking crack)
Then we adjusted to truly just have closest family and friends and adjusted to 60
If we included all family (like aunts first cousins lol) and our friends it would be 180
We could do 180 for $24k but we could not do it as nicely as we wanted to so we drew the line at 60
So how many guests and why? 🙂
Post # 3
We are having 120, I chose our venue, in part, because it limited the amount of people that we could invite. If we invited “everyone” that we would have like, it would have been around 250. 250 is, personally, too much work and expense for us.
Post # 4
We wrote out all our ‘must invites’ and then had a ‘wish list’. We ended up with about 160-ish invited and had 120 at the wedding.
Guest list is one of my biggest regrets from the wedding.
There were about 10-20 guests I ended up NOT inviting (I was super stressed about head count and finances) and I’m still kicking myself for not including them..
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
50 here! inviting more.. we are having a Destination Wedding.. so I expect just a few to travel 🙂
Post # 6
We originally invited 100….
had 80 RSVP yes and confirm…
and just over 60 actually show
Post # 7
we invited 55 so far we wanted a low cost and intimate wedding and the place we booked can only really hold 50 so hoping some dont bring their guest xD
Post # 8
We’re up to 101 on the list, but only expecting 60 or so as it’s a kind of a destination wedding.
Post # 9
We decided to keep it to less than 48 guests – we invited 49 (including grand-parents we knew couldn’t come, and a couple of people after the first ‘no’s’). We’re having 45 people total, including us – so 43 guests. We decided to do that for several reasons:
1. I wanted a courthouse wedding, Fiance wanted a real ceremony, so we compromised with a small wedding.
2. We only wanted our closest friends and family due to my aversion to being a guest at weddings where I’ve barely gotten to say congratulations to my close friends who are getting married. With <50 people, we figured we might actually get to talk to all the guests!
3. Budget. Our small budget (initially $4k, increased to $6k when we realized how expensive photographers and caterers are!) will go so much further with just a few people.
We occasionally have ‘guest regret’: where we wish we could invite someone (I’m kind of regretting not inviting my cousins, Fiance has regrets over some friends) – but, overall, we’re psyched about the small personal feel…
Post # 10
How did we do it? We guessed 125-150 based on what my parents invited to theirs.
So I got a ballroom, and they had two–one with a capacity of 500 and one with 200. The smaller one (same $$) has crystal chandeliers and is GORGEOUS so I picked that one.
AND THEN we did our guest list. 310. SHOOOOOOOT! (Big families.)
So, 230 on the A list, 80 on the B list. We’ll see–I am really hoping to invite the whole B list. It is out of town for most–so we may have only 50% of the people show.
Post # 11
200-250.. LARGE greek family. marrying into a filippino family.
and we even cut that down from 475!
yup. it’s ganna be big.
Post # 12
We were shooting for 100 but it will probably be about 110. Initially we thought 85 and then kept thinking of people we felt we wanted there. We had a rule “No one we don’t know” and so on. It’s small enough to not be overwhelming but large enough that we incorporate everyone we want to. There’s no way in hell I would go over 120. That was my invisible line. We wanted to keep it feeling intimate and not go over budget, mainly.
Post # 13
We invited 50; including the wedding party, but we knew a lot of guests wouldn’t be able to make it, for various reasons; one of which, we planned a Thursday wedding to keep within our budget. We ended up with 24 guests and it was perfect. Any more and I don’t think it would have been as enjoyable. We got to visit with everyone and everyone had a good time.
Post # 14
100 because it’s all I know
Post # 15
We invited around 100 people, almost all family but there were a handful of friends. We knew that at least 25 were not going to be able to come, most are FI’s family from midwest who don’t have enough money to travel. (We wanted to invite them because we didn’t want to leave them out in case they could come.
59 people is the final count of guests that have said that they are going to make it.
We only wanted to invite people who are close to us. Also money was a factor.
Post # 16
We had 22! I made it work,even though I probably have the hugest family out of ALL OF Y’ALL! heheh
I wanted to have a nice wedding, but not spend a million dollars. Plus, I am kind of shy – I wanted to keep it low key and only invite those who really care!