(Closed) How many guests are you inviting?

posted 12 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My hubby and I invited 60 guests and ended up with 50 attending–it was intimate, romantic and utterly fantastic to have such a small group of people.  We were able to have a pretty upscale affair and since we had our wedding out of town, we added a lot of extras to the event, making it a weekend affair.  best of luck with your decision and congrats on the house!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Thanks to a small venue, we’re keeping it to under 60, including us.  We both agreed that we wanted a celebration with our very closest family and friends and our goal is to spend some time with every person at our wedding. Dealing with single folks has been a concern, but most people understand. The only trouble we’ve had thus far is with a friend of FI’s whom I’ve not met (she lives in another country), who now wants to bring her boyfriend.  From what we can gather, this is a long-term relationship, so the etiquette points to inviting him as well, but neither of us has met him ever and with such a small guest list, each spot is precious.  We’ve got our fingers crossed that this will work out…

In any case, if we hadn’t gone with a venue with size restrictions, I’m sure the list would have increased to 80 or so with all the folks FI’s parents want to invite or to accommodate people such as FI’s friend or dates of single folks.  However, it’s worth it to deal with a few uncomfortable cases to keep the wedding to a size we are comfortable with.  To celebrate with our larger social circle, we’re having a second reception when we get back from our honeymoon.  For those disappointed they didn’t make the list, we emphasized that the wedding is pretty much family (FI has a LOT of family), but that we’ll be having a larger reception later in the fall.  That seems to help a lot.

Best of luck with the list and congrats on the house!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m inviting 130 people and it looks like about 120 will reply yes. I originally wanted to keep it below 100 for all the reasons stated above: cost saving, more intimacy, more time with guests, etc.  However, Fiance wants everyone there and our guest list grew to 130.  He keeps thinking that the cap is 150 and I always have to emphasize my need for a smaller guest list.  It doesn’t look like I’d get it down to 100, but I can deal with 120 as opposed to 150. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

We are also inviting 200 and hoping for 150-180. The guest list has been my least favorite part of wedding planning by far!

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Inviting nearly 90, but hoping for (and think we’ll get) 60-70 guests.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Mine started at 100, and is now at 190!!!!!!!  I hope to have no more than 120 RSVP.  Not sure where we would put many more.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

We’re inviting about 180 people but many of those are a courtesy invite. Because our wedding is in Montana, we only expect between 70 and 120 people to attend. I know that’s kind of a "span" there, but it remains to be seen who will come.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

your question made me go and do a fresh tally on our guest list.

 the number is scary, to me, bc originally we wanted a small intimate ceremony, but when family got involved, it got out of control.

our guest list, before any cutting stands at 282.

i told my caterer 130.

 ummm, yeah…….

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I haven’t sent out invitations yet, but we are inviting 250 guests.  It’s hard to really count the exact numbers because Asian people do not understand what rsvp means!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
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  • 12 years ago

We’re inviting 50…so we’re assuming around 30 or 40 will show up. Neither my Fiance nor I wanted a big wedding we’re not into feeding and paying for people to be there just because we "know" them….

It’s strictly family and good friends only! There’ll be no "friend of a friend’s baby" shananigans with us.

🙂

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2020

we’re inviting about 240-50, hoping for 225. my dad first came to me with a list of 220 people ALONE (not including my mother, they are divorced).  it has been a long uphill battle and at this point, i’m giving him 60, but he’s pushing  back quite a bit. I rationalized it by saying that my fiance’s parents have 50 TOTAL between the two of them. it’s been the least fun part of the wedding planning so far!

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We have 341 invited and are guessing we will have 250 attending.  We originally planned on 175 attending but we’re finding that several people that our parents knew "for sure" would never actually be able to attend are planning on attending. 

Post # 29
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Newbee

We’re trying to keep ours to about 75, including ~10 children.  Though if we don’t keep his mom in check, the final tally could easily balloon to 150+.  Everyone from my family lives much further away, so maybe 20 at most will show from my side…

Post # 30
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Helper bee

We think it is going to be around 200 invited with about 180 attending.  We have severeal elderly people who will not make the trip and some others that will not be traveling but we want to invite them because they are inportant to us.  just under half of our guest list will be traveling (includign us).

We wanted to a have about 125 max at the wedding but when we made the choice to have it on my family’s property in my hometown the list suddenly grew.  We had to invite all of my Aunts and Uncles and all of thier children as they own the land equally with my father.  (It’s just a bit rude to exclude someone from a big party on thier own property.)  Since my Dad is one of seven that’s a lot of people.  And they alll have multiple kids, some married with kids, too!

Post # 31
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Worker bee

We’re inviting 100, and hoping for 80-90

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