(Closed) How many guests are you inviting?

posted 12 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
Member
5 posts
Newbee

We invited 125 and 85 have responded so far, deadline is next week.

Post # 33
Member
38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Our guest list sits at 65. I’m hoping to get at least 45-50 including wedding party.

Perfect, small, and more money can be spent on food and fun 🙂

Post # 34
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Originally I thought our wedding would be about 100 guests.  I totally under-estimated how big our families are.   We ended up sending out invites for 170 and I hope to be at 130 to 140 when we get all the RSVP’s back. 

The RSVP deadline is May 21  and as of right now we are at 47 attending with 111 RSVPs still missing.

Post # 35
Member
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

260 Ackkk!  As long as I don’t get more than 200 "yes" I’ll be happy.  Our goal was 160 – but I think that’s a little ambitious.

Post # 36
Member
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Haha, reading these was funny, because I can relate to every single one of you. Sweeney, it’s funny that you always forget to include the wedding party, I seem to always forget myself and my fiance. Whoops! We’ve got a guarantee with our venue of 175. Looking at my trusty excel spreadsheet, I have 277 (including kids), and I then have a probable list which is ending up right around 226 total. Fiance wanted no more than 50 to begin with.. d’oh! He isn’t comfortable with big crowds of people he doesn’t know. But my parents are divorced and both remarried, all with big families, and tons of friends, and apparently had to invite everyone they’ve ever spoken to. His family is small and parents don’t have a ton of friends, so needless to say, there won’t be a bride’s side and a groom’s side. I made it a rule though, if fiance and I have never met the person (or they’ve never heard of us!!!) they aren’t invited!!! Otherwise, we may have been at 400! God help me…

Post # 37
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We want to buy a house as well so we are trying to keep the wedding to 60 people. Only the nearest and dearest!! The only problem is- every extra penny spent on the wedding means less money for the house!! It’s a vicious cycle! But I can’t wait for our intimate day!!!

Post # 38
Member
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

we have about 190 on the guest list. however, if 130 or less show up, we’ll save $1.5k on the venue and tons and tons on food/drink. i hate hoping that people won’t show up for my wedding, but…i hope (some) people won’t show up for my wedding. there. i said it.

Post # 39
Member
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland

We’ve invited 227 (including 2 kids and a baby), and right now have 165 coming.  There are 18 people we haven’t yet heard from, but it looks like we’re going to have 170-180 total, which is what we were aiming for.

Post # 40
Member
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

My oh my, I’m glad I read the second page because I was feeling a bit ridiculous about how many people will be invited to our wedding. We are at 360. Fiance and I both have HUGE extended families (200+ people) that we are super close to. Not inviting them to our wedding would not be an option. We are hopeful that we will end up at 250-275. The wedding is destination for 50% of our guests and close to Christmastime so we know some won’t make it.

Post # 41
Member
202 posts
Helper bee

350 is the magic number. we hope to be right there!

Post # 42
Member
45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are inviting the max capacity of the reception site 230 ppl…..  He has a big extended family ~50 and I have about ~30, our friends ~75, and our parents’ friends ~75?  Which means 37 and a half people for each set of parents??  Uh oh we may need to redo the numbers….

Post # 43
Member
20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Oh haselwand and bride, ya’ll made me feel sooo much better about my huge wedding! Because we both have huge families, we were thinking it would be around 300. But when all the parents were done adding, the invite list ballooned to 390!! We’re hoping for 275-300. There are a lot of out-of-town guests, so we think it’s doable.

Post # 44
Member
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

too many.  😛

It started out that we weren’t inviting more than 150 people, but that number increased to about 230!

Granted – according to his mother a lot of those are ‘courtesy invites’, and they won’t come to the wedding, but I feel horrible inviting people we don’t even want there!  Also, my extended family can be pretty flakey, so I doubt most of them will come, either. So the people I want to come probably won’t and people we don’t want to come just might…

awesome.  It WILL be fun.  and Awesome….

Post # 45
Member
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I want to cry.  I initially wanted only 200 MAX but my Fiance wants to invite everyone that has ever invited him to their weddings and now we have 316.  We’re paying for the wedding ourselves and I have told my parents that they couldn’t invite their friends and now FIL’s gave me a list of their 30 closest friends…and Fiance will not say anything to them.  I am stressed beyond belief.

Post # 46
Member
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

our orig list was hovering at 367, but then since we moved the wedding and i dumped the orig venue it’s now at 250 – we eliminated alot of his coworkers and their +1s and alot of his softball friends

our new venue maxes out at 230 – not all 250 will show up i’m sure since some of them live out of country and i’m gambling on the "hit ratio" of other guests not showing for whatever reason

The topic ‘How many guests are you inviting?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors