Post # 1

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Busy bee
I want to start counting how many invitations we need to make, here is my question. If i were to send one to my sister and her husband that is one invitation, She also has 3 children who live at home who are all older and may have guests do i sent One invitation to the house for all the people in the house (see image below) OR do i send one per couple??
EXAMPLE – my sister/ her husband
24yr old nephew and his new wife (they still live there)
18yr old nephew and his girlfriend (she lives with her parents but i know he will bring her)
16yr old nephew (not giving him a guest)
same question about my FI’s Aunt/ Uncle house?
they have 3 daughters (all live at home) none are married but two have boyfriends (that live with their own parents)
daughter 1 – shes 26( has a boyfriend)
daughter 2 – shes 21(single)
daughter 3 -16 (she has a boyfriend)
how many invitations do i send per household?
– this is what i was thinking but wasn’t sure if it was ok or not…what do you think
send my sisters house hold 3?
one for my sister/husband/16 year old son(no guest- he has bad friends)
24yr old nephew/ wife
18yr old nephew/guest
send to my FI’s aunt/uncle house 4?
Aunt/uncle
26yr daughter/guest
21yr daughter/guest
16yr daughter/guest
or just one per house hold?
I like the idea of this RSVP -NOT MINE- i found it on a website I like the check list idea for the names.
HELP!

Post # 3

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Bumble bee
@AndysCraftsNmore: Etiquette says anyone over 18 should get their own invitation. I did anyone that I was inviting with a guest got their own invitation. I sent 3 invitations to one house!
Post # 4

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Sugar Beekeeper
I’d just send one. I think it’s silly to send copies of the exact same thing to one place.
Post # 5

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Sugar bee
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Agree with PP, anyone over 18 gets an invite of their own. Esspecially if they’re married or in a serious relationship. I think a lot of people like getting an invite addressed to them that names just them and their SO/DH etc. It’s silly but I felt so “grown up” when I got my first wedding invitation where I wasn’t just included on my parent’s invite.
Post # 6

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Blushing bee
I did as MrsBaldEagle suggests: sent an invite to each person over 18 and to anyone under 18 who was allowed a guest (just one in our case, since it is not generally necessary to give minors a +1).
Post # 7

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Bumble Beekeeper
@MrsBaldEagle: +1
We also had a couple of houses that received 3 invites.
Post # 8

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Buzzing Beekeeper
over 18 gets their own invitation.
if the 24 year old cousin still lives at home and is married, him and wife should get their own invitation.
i would suggested not writing The Smith Family. This leaves it open ended and lets the guests think they can bring additional people.
Post # 9

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Honey Beekeeper
You should send one invitation to each person over the age of 18 who is invited. The 24 year old and his wife get one, your 18 year old nephew gets one, your sister and her husband get one, and I’d likely send the 16 year old his own just because everyone else had their own, but technically he could be lumped in with his parents.
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Yup. The guildines say, anyone over 18 gets there own.
It also sounds like it’s easier for you to do ut that way.