(Closed) How many is too many??

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Mick26:  IMO 6+ is too many.  Stick around and read the horror stories of brides dealing with their BMs.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

that sounds like a lot for BMs and GMs. can some of the girls and guys have different honor positions like a reading, handing out programs, etc.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have 6 and 0 issues. They have been around me for

years. I also don’t need them to do anything so that could be why I dont have issues. But IMO I wouldnt do anymore. I am inviting about 220-230 guests.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mick26:  Since your wedding isn’t huge, I think 6 would be considered a large bridal party, however its your wedding and you should do what you want.

 

I have 10 BMs and 7 GMs and don’t regret it at all. I love all of my BMs and couldn’t imagine getting married without them standing up next to me! I also haven’t had a single issue. Personally, I think the issues bride’s have with their BMs comes from having too high of expectations or they aren’t that good of friends to begin with.  

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our wedding is approximately the same size… we have 4 BMs & 4 GMs…we haven’t asked really anything of them other than to get their wedding day attire as directed… Its still kind of like pulling teeth though.. perhaps b/c we already have a child and so do several of our party and we all have different commitments but i would say no more than what you already have…

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think anything over 6 is excessive and starts to become impersonal. 

I know someone who has 14 bridesmaids.  And it’s utterly ridiculous.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Mick26:  6 is definitely the top number I’d do, regardless of the size of the wedding but especially in yours. You’re inviting 100, so I’m assuming 50 of those are from your side, which means already over 10% of your guests are in the wedding party! That no longer feels that “special”. Plus, even if you all get along famously, have you ever tried to pick a place to eat with that many people? Now imagine trying to pick one dress which they will all be photographed in all day. And those pictures are going to look like a sea of people when the whole party is together. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have 5 and I have had 0 issues (other than having to remind a few to call in to get their dresses ordered by the deadline…which they finally did).  However, I think that a few more than that will start to get excessive…and more expensive! If I had 2 less bridesmaids I’d be saving at least $500!

I’m inviting around 115-120 people.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have six BMs (and Fiance has six GM) and I couldn’t be happier with my choice (like a lot of people are saying). I’m inviting around 125-150 people and my venue is a sprawling ranch (75 acres) so I don’t think the bridal party will look “out of place.” If you’re afraid of that, maybe have your BMs sit instead of stand beside you during the ceremony?

 

I also want to add, I didn’t not appoint any of my girls as Maid/Matron of Honor. This is absolutely a personal choice, but I’m so happy that I did it. I already have one girl that wants to throw the shower, one that wants to give a speech, and two of the others are working with me to make the bachelorette party out of this world. So, I do agree with other PPs that the reason for being “disappointed” in/by your BMs is because one may expect too much out of them.

 

Do what your heart tells yoU!

 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think the party will look unproportional to the number of guests. I just think after 5 BMs, people tend to get bored by the time the bride gets her turn to come down the aisle.

I would sitck to 5 and find other things for the rest of the girls to do.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Mick26:  I already held this opinion prior to stalking to Bridesmaid boards, but doing so only reinforced my theory that, for us, 1 is too many.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mick26:  Whoa…I think 5 is the highest I could ever go, but even that is pushing it. When I was picking mine I just kept flashing back to school projects where I had to work with a group of people and how difficult it was to coordinate everything. I chose 4 and I think it’s been perfect that way. I’ll never understand large bridal parties.

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