(Closed) How many is TOO many?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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gloshlove:  +1. SAME!

I picked 5 BMs and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor… I also said I would not have a big wedding party, like 3 max… then when it came time to pick people I got a little carried away and asked more then I should have. It’s expensive, and impossible to co-ordinate everyone. Oh well…

Post # 32
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

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bluelinebride:  First of all, congratulations on your engagement! Second, I am right there with you. My SO and I plan to get engaged after the holidays, but he has already said that he needs to have all of his best friends in college included in the weddding party. He is not one to initiate wedding related conversation this far in advance, but he really has his heart set on it!

At first, I was like — “Wait… what? That’s about 11 people!! No way!” but after we took a trip back to visit our alma mater and meet up with all of our friends, I couldn’t say no. We are all really close and it would be impossible to include even one without the others. Seeing everyone again after being graduated for a couple of months was really sentimental and it made me excited about the idea. It’ll be a wedding “party” for sure!! I say go for it!

blankenshiptobe:  This is a great picture! Letting everyone choose a different dress is the way to go with large parties, in my opinion. As long as they are in the same color/color family, OP is good to go. All of the dresses coordinated perfectly! 


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Post # 34
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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bluelinebride:  I had three. I think any more than 4 is too much. These people are the most special and it’s an honor to be in the bridal party! It’s also better for photographs, communication, and well, pretty much everything.

One of my bridesmaids caused a lot of drama, so think about that as well. Sometimes too many ‘chefs in the kitchen’ is a bad idea. You never know how someone can behave until they are involved in a wedding! Weird but very true.

Of course it’s up to you and what you are comfortable with! Good luck 🙂

Post # 35
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had seven and wouldn’t have had it any way! All my closest girls friends and family! Xx


Post # 36
2449 posts
Buzzing bee

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bluelinebride:  I went to a wedding where there were 20 bridesmaids and 20 groomsmen. I think they had 5 Maid/Matron of Honor and 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man. The wedding itself was a huge affair with 500-700 attendees. I wasn’t part of the bridal party but it looked like they had a blast and that’s the most important thing.

I also don’t think you need a “Sister of Honor” title if your sisters are going to be Maid/Matron of Honor. Most people will understand that. Where it gets sticky is when you have multiple people of the same level of closeness and then you decide to make one or a few of them Maid/Matron of Honor and the rest are bridesmaids. If you run into that, you can always just have everyone be a bridesmaid.

I don’t have any sisters, but I have multiple, extremely close best friends and I don’t know what I’m going to do when I get married. They may very well all end up being bridesmaids.

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