Post # 1
So… I have an interesting delimma. I have eight grandparents. That means 8 different sides of my family. I have 300 cousins, give or take. With that being said, I would like to incorporate at least one person from each side somewhere in the wedding party plus the people my fiancé wants to include. We have a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man, 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, a bridesman, a Groomsmaid, a junior bridesmaid, a junior groomsman, 2 ring gals, and 2 confetti lads. (Our equivalent to flower girls except they are throwing confetti). Our officiant will also be a family member or close friend. Is that too many people?
Post # 2
Just a heads up… you made the exact same post on several boards…
Yes, that sounds like an overwhelming number of people to me personally. But it’s your wedding and your familiy so if it seems normal then it’s fine.
Post # 3
It would be too many for me, I would feel overwhelmed, but then again I have 7 cousins and you have 300, so it’s hard for me to relate! I think it’s fine if you’re happy to have that many people involved, presumably your guests know how large your family is so no-one will be surprised by that fact that you have a large wedding party.
Post # 4
sunflowers121: yeah… I don’t know how I did that and it won’t let me delete any…
Post # 5
tada1995: We will be having 250 guests at our wedding.
1 Matron of Honor
1 Maid of Honor
1 Best Man
3 flower girls
3 ring bearers
I’m obsessed with having even numbers in our bridal party. 6 on each side seems normal to me.
Post # 6
Can your budget accommodate such a large party? EAch attendant needs a bouquet/bout, a thank you gift and 2 seats at the Rehearsal Dinner because each one needs to be invited with their spouse/FI/SO. Just your adult attendants require 20 seats at the Rehearsal Dinner, and the younger ones need to be invited with their parents. Can you afford that many for the Rehearsal Dinner, flowers, and thank you gifts?
The wedding party is a line item in your budget. Be sure you can accomodate everyone.
Post # 7
When you break it down, there will be 6 standing on each side with 2 flower girls and confetti boys – this doesn’t sound so excessive. In saying that, there is no way I would consider this many people for our own bridal party – we’re having 3 on each side, plus a flower girl and 2 page boys. If you are happy to have this many people, then go for it.
Post # 8
Nope! Sounds totally normal to me. It is a large wedding party, but not excessive. The only real concerns with a big wedding party are:
1. Has it lost it’s meeting? Did you pick so many people that the title no longer holds honor?
Ans: No, I don’t think so. Especially as many/most are family. That is a sweet gesture.
2. Can you afford it? For each Bridesmaid or Best Man you might need: bouquet, gift, hair, makeup, getting-ready lunch, etc….this cost obviously goes up with each additional attendant.
Ans: Up to you! If you can afford it, then awesome!