(Closed) How Many Is TOO Many??

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it depends on how big your wedding is. 16 people in the wedding party at a ceremony of 300 people is different than a wedding party of 16 people at a wedding of 50 people. At the same time, it’s your wedding day. I don’t think you should include people in your wedding party because you feel obligated to, but if you have 8 girls you think would help to make your day more special, go for it, no matter what anyone says. 

Post # 4
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel as if its WAY too many!! As a general rule its one bridesmaid per 50 guests. Also there is nothing wrong with odd numbers, you don’t want to pick someone just to fill the gap on your side. I’m like you I dont have alot of girlfriends so when my man said he was having 4 groomsmen I worried cause I only have three close friends, luckly I was able to ask a cousin. Could asking a family member be an option for you. Good luck.

Post # 6
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think there’s any right or wrong decision here. We’re having 250 people and a 16 person wedding party. Will pictures be difficult? Sure. Do I care? Nope.

If you personally don’t want 8 though, there’s nothing wrong you and Fiance being uneven. You could probably get away with only having 6 girls without it looking ‘off.’ You should definitely do what you can to let him include all the people he cares about – but you’re right – you also don’t want to throw people into your wedding party that you’re really not that close with. I wouldn’t stress about it too much though, in the end I’m sure it will work out perfectly.

Post # 7
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

we are have 10 bm, 10gm…i think its around 26 in the wedding party…we have 200 guest.

you do what feels right to you!! i have a huge wedding party because i want every single person that we love to feel included in out wedding.

here is a picture of my cousins wedding. she had 12 bm..12 gm…ect. it was a HUGE party but no joke prob one of the BEST wedding i had been too and everyone felt loved and included like family!

Post # 8
193 posts
Blushing bee

I would have loved to have had that many. I have 1 because we only invited 80 and my partner didnt want it to look like a circus. I think all though it is a lot it looks great in photos!

Post # 9
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

first wedding there was 3 bridesmaids 3grooms men 2 flower girls and one ringer bearer, second marriage there will be 5 bridesmaids 5 grooms men 1flower 2 ring bearers… – do how many u and fiancee are comfortable with… more people doesnt always mean more drama…im my case i think both my weddings had so far equal amount of bridesmaid drama….

Post # 11
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have 7 on each side…whatever…I’m over the size and am happy our friends are excited about making our day special 

Post # 12
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

more bridesmaids = more headaches in my opinion.

if he wants 8, and you want 4, just do that. you CAN have uneven parties. in fact, I think it’s becoming trendy.


Post # 14
13015 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

On average, I’ve heard 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man for every 50 guests is how you should calculate it so it looks balance.  But, in the end, include who you want, it’s your day. 

I think 8 each is a lot, but it’s your wedding!

Post # 15
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Uneven sides are ok!  Don’t ask people just because you need “fillers” because they will feel like just that- filler.  Have who you want, he can have who he wants, and things will go much more smoothly than if you have a bunch of people you don’t really want with you.

Post # 16
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We had 6 of each, and that was totally reasonable for our 250 guest wedding. Sounds like 8 of each would be great!

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