Post # 1
To start things off:
Yes I’m planning my own bachelorette. I know Maid/Matron of Honor or BMs are suppose to do that but I’m just having my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor and she unfortunately can’t make it to my Vegas bachelorette. We’re both fine with this. She comes to visit me across the country all the time so we get to hang out one on one which we prefer. And I really want to have a girls getaway with my closest girlfriends. And I’m a control freak and love planning trips – down to color-coded meal itineraries.
Anyway back to my burning question: what are everyone’s thoughts on how many is too many for a Vegas bachelorette?
I would ideally love to have no more than 10. However it is looking like maybe 12 +. You know how once you and your girlfriends start excitedly talking about an idea and it somehow spreads! I’m the first to get married amongst my friends, so now I’m afraid some girls have mentioned it to other people, and they want to come too. They’re not accustomed to the "traditions" of the wedding world – (i’m just learning as i go too) where invites are suppose to be officially sent by the Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man etc etc. And since I’m not really doing it the "traditional" way, I don’t really know how to handle this. I would love to invite all the other girls – they’ve fun to party with but they won’t be invited to the wedding.
So that’s part B of the question: would you be expected to be invited to the wedding if you’re invited to a vegas getaway bachelorette?
I apologize for the rambling, any thoughts are appreciated!
Post # 3
My Maid/Matron of Honor and BM’s are planning my Bacholerrette party and it will be in vegas. Its a long way off but mine will be a "more the merrier" type thing. Its really hard to organize a huge group of girls so we are going to insist on a "buddy system". Bascially we plan on spreading the word via e-vite, and having a general agenda of what we are doing. We haven’t discussed the hotel situtation yet but we will probably stay at excalibor because its in the middle of the strip and cheaper than most of the bigger hotels (but its ghetto).
We live in los angeles so organizing flights isn’t a problem.
I went to Vegas last summer with 5 girls and we ended up with a group of 14! we didn’t have to wait in line ANYWHERE (even tyrst!)
If you make it clear its not "invite only" people will not feel as if they are invited. My Fiance goes to vegas for bacholer parties with his buddies a few times a year but is never invited ot a wedding.
If you want ot make sure you have one-on-one time with your closest pals, you can always stay an extra day.
Post # 4
I’m doing a similar thing in Miami – I’ve told people they can bring a friend. I think this will work because I’ve offered this mostly to my sisters -whose friends probably don’t expect to be on the list anyways.
I’m organizing it mostly myself with advice from the bridesmaids and calling it a girl’s weekend/ bachelorette. I didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor and I was unsure who would take the lead so I sent out an evite. I have about 6 so far which is good for me. I think you might not get to spend much time with some people if it gets over 14. If that’s OK with you then its fine to have a larger group. It will still be fun I think.
Unless its public knowledge that your wedding list is really small – I’d stay away from inviting people that might think they are invited. I think it would be awkward.
I think you should get control of the invite list – send out an evite to those you’ve discussed it with and start throwing out costs and dates to make decisions (you can do surveys on there which is great). Hopefully they’ll mention if so and so is left out and you can discuss discretely whether or not they’re on the list. Good Luck.
Post # 5
I had mine in Vegas and we had 8 people which was perfect for our suite – we had four beds and two girls per bed.
Post # 6
I planned my best friend’s last April, it was a combined party. We had two brides and 14 of us total. It was a good amount of girls- we split 3 rooms to keep cost down and stayed at the Mandalay bay. We laid around the pool all together during the days, and went to dinner all together- but once you hit the clubs/bars people tend to pair off and go their own ways. Some get too drunk or too tired, others want to gamble, or it’s hard to agree on just one place to go.
I think 10-12 is fine (make dinner reservations prior!) We did pizza and drinks in the room one night to save us $$ and played fun bachelorette games before going out. And, as someone above suggested- stick to the buddy system, make sure you all keep your cell phones on and never end up alone.
Post # 7
I agree with the difficulty of organising so many girls, I guess that’s where my hesitancy is with inviting too many people. The buddy system is great advice so now I’m starting to feel better about having more than 10 girls. We don’t HAVE to all be together 24/7!
Tallbride, how do I make it clear its not "invite people" only?
Post # 8
I’m also the more the merrier type and cannot invite all the girls to the wedding who are invited to the B-party. My BM’s will also help pass that message along, but more girls want to go to the B-arty. Same with the Fiance – more guys are excited about his Bachelor party.
I can say the buddy system helps (cuz not everyone likes doing the same things). When I’ve gone with just a few girls it’s hard cuz everyone wants to do something different. If they can pair up and everyone meets up for designated times/places it work really well. IMO
Post # 9
you can never have too many!!!
my bachelorettes will be in miami and vegas – for my friends on both sides of the country.
we have 4 days and 3 nights in each city and i’ve encourgaed each of my GFs to bring another Girlfriend if they want since not all my GFs know each other anyway – so the more the merrier.
i planned it b/c i am also a control freak!! hahaa
days are for doing whatever – "free time" with no structure no itinerary nothing – we definitley do not need to all be hangin out all day everyday!!nights are for dinner and going out dancing or bar-hopping afterwards – going out is optional for those who dont want to… but dinner – breaking bread with my friends is not optional! that’s the only mandatory thing!!
Post # 10
We did a bachelorette party for one of my friends in Vegas this spring with 14 ladies. We had a few things planned and let people know what those were ahead of time, with times to meet up, etc. It worked so perfectly! Here’s how it went:
Friday – people arrived all day, from 9am to 6pm … casual dinner out … Cirque show (this was optional but everyone ended up going) … then people split up and did their own things
Saturday – no formal plan during the day … gathered for bachelorette games, drinks in one of our rooms … nice dinner out at Lavo with reservations … clubbing at Tao (we got VIP access through a connected friend)
Sunday – no formal plan, some girls left early, some stuck around till the afternoon
It was a perfect weekend! As far as letting people know that they might not be invited to the wedding, I’d just have people mention a few times that the wedding is small, etc. Or you could even say something to the non-invites along the lines of “after I get married, you and I will have to go out for coffee/drinks/ice cream so that I can tell you all about the big day!”
Good luck and have fun!