(Closed) How many Kids? and Why?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I used to want four- 2 boys and two girls so each kid had a brother and a sister. Fiancé and I decided on two, though, so that we’ll have more money for them to play sports, save for school, take vacations, etc etc etc. Of course who knows what will actually happen!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I used to want 3ish. I have two boys (age 5 & 1) and I won’t be trying again for a girl. I’ve always really wanted a girl but two is enough for me. Two are already a lot to find a sitter for and the birthdays/christmas/etc alone is enough costs for me. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Bellagio, Las Vegas

I have one, and one more is enough for me. I would love to have another son. If I have a girl, I’ll be just as happy, though! 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Both my dh and I want 2.  We have 1 child and hope to have the 2nd one soon.  

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I only want two. Fiance wants three. We already have one boy, and are working on the next one ๐Ÿ™‚ Looking way into the future, I really want to be able to financially support my children as they get older with college, cars, and their own families. I also want to be financially stable and be able to take my kids on vacations and pay for sports they want to play etc. The more children we have, the more we are spread financially and the less we will be able to provide. I hate to chalk my reasoning up to money, but that is the unfortunate truth. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I have one from my pervious marriage- Darling Husband has none and we are more than happy with one. We like to travel and do things with her- having 1 allows us to do more. Also with the rising costs of private school tuition and after school activites- I can’t imagine being able to do all that with more than 1. Having 1 gives us the freedom to do so much in life that we couldn’t do if we had more kids. Also- my daughter is 5- it’s such a great age- she’s out of the baby stage, no more diapers and bottles and sippy cups. It’s great! I have no desire to do that again and my husband doesn’t care to do that either.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Two.

1. We both grew up with siblings and that’s what we want for our kids.

2. It’s what we can afford.

3. Easier to keep track of – I only have two hands.

4. Most “family” packages are for 2 adults and 2 kids.

5. Carspace (I am the youngest and always had to be stuck between two others on long-distance drives which isn’t the greatest).

Plus we are hoping for one of each gender but if it doesn’t happen then we might consider trying for a third. After that, we’re definitely shutting up shop. Any more and then you need a bigger place to house everyone, more carspace which probably means buying a van…it’s just too much to consider right now.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

ChelseaGabrielle:  If it were up to me I would love just to have two kids. I already have a son so if our next kid is a girl we will prob be done with having kids. If we end up having two boys than we will prob be done after 4 kids even if we end up with 4 boys. I don’t want more than 4 kids but would prefer just to have 2 kids. 

Btw the gender is determined by the father genetics not the mothers. My mom had 3 daughter before she had a son and my fmil had 2 of each gender. My fiance is the second oldest in his family. My son is the only grandson with 3 girl cousins so you never know what you are going to get. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We decided on 2. My husband wants 6 but i talked him down. Lol. 

We chose 2 as our number because we’re already older than we wanted to be and we want to be somewhat of young parents (we just had our first and she will be 7weeks tomorrow) and because we didnt want to be held down finance wise. We plan to continue our lives somewhay as we wouls have sans kids… we travel and dont plan to completely stop so the more kids then less this becomes a possibility. My husband and i are both only children and said that if we dont get pregnant by the time were 30 (a year and a half) then our little one will just be an only child as well.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We have two girls. Two is manageable, since we are not outnumbered and our family does not yet qualify as a herd. We could have more but I think everyone’s quality of life would not be as good.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Darling Husband and I agreed to three before we were married, though I think he would have been satisfied with two (he did not object to three; he just would have been fine if we had stopped at two). I always wanted two boys and a girl, and was very lucky because that is what we had (in that order). However, we would have stopped at three regardless of whether we had had all boys or all girls. We planned to have them two years apart, although the first two were 28 months apart and our third was born 20 months after the second, so we were pretty close.

My sister and I were 4-1/2 years apart, and while that works for some families, we have never been close. I wanted my kids closer in age so they could share more in terms of school and social experiences. It has worked out well for us, and the kids are very close and mostly get along quite well.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We would like as many as we can afford to support and as many that’s safe for my body to have. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t have any kids of my own, but I’m from such a big family you would laugh if I told you. ๐Ÿ™‚ Fiance and I want to have a big family also, but we’ll take them as they come and want to be responsible parents. I will tell you though, that you learn a lot from having lots of siblings. My parents made a very modest income, so we had to do without expensive anything. They taught us that it’s essential to be generous, to share, to be frugal, and to be selfless. I’ve had plenty of amazing opportunities (like going to Europe three times – planning a fourth – and finishing my college degree without debt and getting into an Ivy school for my Master’s) but I had to work my butt off to do it. I’m really grateful for the sacrifices my parents made for me, and I hope that I can be as selfless as them by being generous and open to life.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Two for us.  They will always have each other and it was wonderful to give my husband’s son a sibling as they are best friends despite the 10 year age gap.  My parents had six of us and I have no idea how they did it as it still amazes me that they raised that many of us and did such a wonderful job too!  Two is definitely enough for us!

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