(Closed) How many Kids? and Why?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 76
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

KetelOne:  Opinion truly. Also I would love to see the source of your statements. As a middle child it intrigues me. 🙂 

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

Zero. We don’t see the appeal.

Post # 78
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Mrs.LaFountain:  

 

 

https://www.nytimes.com/books/first/m/mckibben-one.htmlhttp://m.shr.sagepub.com/content/5/9/2054270414533327.full

http://www.hindawi.com/journals/cdr/2014/578289/

http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2002530,00.ht

 

Anyway, these are just a few that support what I said. There are more and some others that disagree. Though more modern research supports this viewpoint, it could absolutely be argued that socioeconomic status could be a far more predictive factor for achievement (whether due to more opportunity or the genetics of highly motivated, intelligent people producing highly motivated, intelligent people). Anecdotally, I can sayI know many successful adults who had siblings and those who didn’t.

I’m sorry if I was provoked by your comment on only children, but I have very low tolerance for stereotyping. 

Post # 79
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Sugar bee

Mrs.LaFountain:  When you start a sentence with “no offense” you probably shouldn’t finish it. Just sayin’

Post # 80
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Well I’m Chinese and in my culture, it best to have a girl and boy. Because the Chinese word of daughter and son write together add up to the word  好  “hao”, it a good meaning word in Chinese language.

My husband everytime he see neighbors little kids running around playing in the playground, he always ask me when am I going to give him a son? Always give him a “son”, he is fixate on having a son, lol

My husband and I live in the same cheap rent area neighborhood. He choose the public staircase that closest to my apartment, quietly sit there and wait for me. My staircase is facing the parking lot and the playground. So him sit there wait for me while watching all the kids play in the playground, it must give him all those ‘children’ thoughts, Lol!!.. He said he doesn’t mind have a soccer team. Lord, no way we are raising a soccer team of kids when we living in the hood.

DH always wanted a small house and a son. He working 2 jobs right now so we can have enough money save up to buy our small house. I’m going to help him by give him my saving for the house down-payment. When we have our own house, I’m going to give him son… IF for whatever reason in the future we no longer together, who can tell the future right? IF we end up part, then at least I complete and fulfill my duty as a wife, I have no regrets this lifetime.

I have an abusive mother in my childhood. So I admit, I grow up with Low Self-worth and insecurity.. I don’t think my marriage is going to last, and this is all my own insecurity. It have nothing to do with my husband, he is an awesome awesome husband!!.. He is a good heart, down to earth guy too. I don’t think I can find another guy like him, not in a million years.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Right now we are thinking that we want two kids. I am an only child, and I have always wanted my children to have siblings.

Who knows what will happen though? I may decide I am good with one after we have our first baby. I can definitely see all the benefits of only having one child.

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

KetelOne:  Thank you for the links. And I’m sorry to about my general statement. 🙂

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

1 for sure, after that we will see. I always thought the idea of 2 was nice but SO wants to take things as we go and I’m already 32 and won’t be ttc until 33 so we will just see what happens.

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I will only have one child. I want to be able to continue to travel and take our child to cool places, I want to be able to allow it to try new things such as piano, hockey, ballet, baseball, etc. I want to be able to provide the things that I couldn’t have as the oldest of 5 girls. I have never once had the desire for multiple children.

Post # 85
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Bumble bee

thestaircase12:  I hope he realizes that it is the male that determines the sex of the child. So it is not your fault if you don’t give him a son. it’s all in the genes.

I have 2 boys. I had some issues with son#2, they thought he was going to be born with Trisomy 18 (Edwards Syndrome) or Trisomy 21 (Downs Syndrome). At 20 weeks I decided to have an amniocentesis done to be sure. We needed to know what we were dealing with and how to prepare son#1 and our families. Luckily, the tests came back negative. When he was born (3 weeks early), he had jaundice like our first son so it was no big deal for him to spend some time under the sun lamps. But then the day he was supposed to come home, he had seizure activity due to his calcium level dropping suddenly. They transferred him to a nearby children’s hospital, where he spent the next 10 days being tapered off phenobarbitol. While there, he developed RSV. A cold for a normal baby but in premature infants, it can be deadly. He had to be put on a CPAP machine to help him breathe and endure respiratory therapy where they flush his lungs with saline solution, deep suction everything out, and pound his back & chest to loosen the mucus, several times a day. It’s the same treatment they do for cystic fibrosis patients. This meant even longer in the hospital. There were times when they thought he would not make it. But he fought back and after spending 6 weeks in the hospital (first Thanksgiving and first Christmas) finally came home the day before NYE 2007. And was on 3 different meds for severe reflux.

I turned 35 a few weeks later and we made the decision not to have any more children, so Darling Husband had a vasectomy.

Today, my boys (10 and 7) are healthy and active.

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee

ChelseaGabrielle:  I sort of feel the same way at times, and my SO says the same thing. I think if we do have a second, it will end up being once the first is 4 or 5, and I miss having a baby! 

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

I only want one to begin with, and if that goes well and we have the finances for it, then we might try for two. But I’m mostly leaning towards just one. I want to have enough money to let my child do all the things I could never do, like sports, lessons, trips, private school, etc. My husband is an only child and he said he loved it growing up. I have an older brother, and although I do get along ok with him now, I hated him growing up. We were poor and couldn’t have much of anything, and we were always fighting. My mom was super stressed.

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m currently pregnant with our 1st baby, at 26 weeks. We are older. I’m 34, hubby just turned 36. I’ve been pretty set on having just 1 baby. But I must say so far this pregnancy has been so easy, fun, I love being pregnant, I’m that weird happy go lucky, never felt better pregnant lady! My hormones have seemed to level me out, I’ve been so calm, level headed, happy, and just so in love with unborn baby and my hubby. He says he’s so happy that I’m so happy. I know however that every pregnancy is different and if we tried for baby #2 I could be the miserable pregnant lady. I think we are going to just do the pull out method like we did before for 8 yrs. We had to try for 7 cycles for this baby. I know once you’ve been pregnant it can be easy to get pregnant again. We’re so undecided if we would want another. I’ll wait and see if this baby is an easy baby… not too fussy, etc..  then we’ll decide.

Post # 89
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2006

i would 1 but god hasn’t blessed my body to create life. However it still gets to me now and then I feel its right as I wouldn’t have the time to care for a child with my hours of work and I don’t believe I or my husband have the patience to truly nurture a child. X

ChelseaGabrielle:  

Post # 90
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Twins run in both our families. Hubby has cousins that are twins, uncles that are twins and he is a twin. My great grandma was a twin so………. If we end up with twins, we will have 3 (or 4 haha). If we don’t end up with twins we will have 2 (or 3 depending on what the second pregnancy brings). 

Darling Husband grew up with his twin sister and younger brother. I was an only child. Being an only child for me was great, I never had the only child syndrome like was mentioned by a PP and I grew to be very independent. But I always wondered what it’d be like to have a sibling. I don’t want my kids to grow up wondering like I did. 

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