(Closed) How many kids came/are coming to your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How many kids were invited to your wedding?
    None : (22 votes)
    21 %
    1 - 10 kids : (53 votes)
    50 %
    11 - 20 kids : (19 votes)
    18 %
    20+ : (7 votes)
    7 %
    Too many!!! :) : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We had 5 under 12 and 5 under 20

    4 of the 5 under 5 were in the wedding and also 4 of the 5 under were in the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have two children (4 and 5 years old), so our wedding will be a family-friendly affair.  I negotiated with my venue for the children to be charged a much lower rate (25% of the cost of an adult meal) and not be attributed to my “total guest count” (for food & beverage minimum purposes).  That allows us the freedom to welcome all children at our wedding.  I’m estimating that we will have 25-30 children at our 130 person wedding.

    Post # 5
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    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I L*O*V*E kids at weddings! They are so fun. Also, for us they add no expense as the caterer doesn’t charge a meal for kids under 6 and virtually all the kids we invited were under 6.

    Everyone’s kids were invited to ours… but many people decided to get sitters anyway! I would say about half of the invited children actually RSVPd.

    Post # 6
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    235 posts
    Helper bee

    I think if I had children and couldnt bring them but showed up to yours and saw other kids there, whether they were included in the wedding or not, I’d feel like you were being selective. I dont have kids but I have heard from the boards how CRAZY people can be about this situation.  I would maybe have your fam spread the word about your guest list issue and maybe people will choose to leave them at home.  Otherwise, I’d go completely kid free- you dont want to piss people off my inviting some and not others.  It’s a tough spot to be in- I feel for you!   We’re having a Destination Wedding, youngest guest will be 9 just because we dont have any kids in the fam now.

    Post # 7
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’re inviting 20 kids and 180 adults. We’re letting any and all families with kids bring them. We hated the idea of someone not being able to come because they couldn’t find a sitter. 

    Post # 8
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    6349 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’re having 2; a 10 year old and 12 year old. We know both really well, they are very mature, and we’re happy to have them there.

    We don’t really know any other children, and even if we did, 10 is the youngest we’d contemplate inviting. We are tight on numbers, we don’t particularly like children, and don’t believe children ‘make’ a wedding; in fact, the worst parties I’ve been to have been family ones, my OH and I, and everyone we’re inviting for that matter, much prefers adult parties.

    No-one has had an issue with our decision; in fact, everyone’s been pretty happy that they get a night off!

    Post # 9
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    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Two. Their parents weren’t going to bring them but couldn’t find sitter. They had the full adult meals and everything. It was not biggie. Their mom was my manager and she had been very good to me, so extra $200 on the kids weren’t a big issues.

    Post # 12
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @arabesque: Could you talk to some relatives and ask them if they would be willing to get a babysitter?  What if you paid for a babysitter to watch kids during the wedding?

    I would be extremely offended if I was a relative that couldn’t bring my kids and I arrived and found out that other kids had been invited (outside of bridal party).  Unless, of course, the bride called me and explained the situation, in which case I would hire a babysitter to accomodate.

    Post # 13
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We will be having a few teens at our wedding (FI’s first cousins), but no very young kids.  We enjoy children and it is nothing against them whatsoever, but we had to draw the line at first cousins because if we allowed our cousins to bring their kids, it would have added SO MANY to our guest list.  Hopefully people will understand.

    I think in order to not hurt people’s feelings and offend them, you have to draw a firm line and not make exceptions.  You can’t invite this cousin’s kids but not that cousin’s kids, you know?

    I feel your pain because my cousins have AWESOME kids who are well-behaved, but FI’s cousins mostly have kids that misbehave and never get reprimanded for poor behavior…  But we couldn’t let my cousins bring their kids & not his, you know?  So we just had to decide to draw the line at first cousins, both because of budget and *ahem* behavioral issues…

    Post # 14
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    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Only the kids in our wedding party, which are my nieces and his brother.

    Post # 15
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    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We invited close to thrity children to our wedding (222 guests came), and about 20 children came to the wedding. They were a blast, and they STILL mention our wedding when we see them, 18 months later.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We’re having an immediate family only ceremony, so 3 children (my FSIL’s kids) will be there.

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