(Closed) How many kids do you want?

• meandmrbee15
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: January 2016

I come from a big family so I’d like to have the same. I consider it a victory that DH changed his mind from wanting 2 to 3 lol >:) 

• MrsWiggles
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: April 2018

1. 

We are both only children and we have decided financially we will be able to give that child the best we can. Take vacations, send them to the right schools and pay for college if that will be needed. 

• vblanch
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2017

Through a number of marriages and divorces, I have two older sisters and two younger sisters, and none of us have the same set of parents, ha-ha. But it all happened while we were young enough that none of us think in the terms of half or step. So at my moms house I was one of three and my dads house I was one of three.

My fiance was raised as an only child, but has an older sister whom he has never met, two older brothers, twin older sisters, and a younger sister.

I had always wanted three because that was the dynamic I was used to. When we were expecting our first son he aways said “One and done” and that made me very sad, however AI learned how much I hated pregnancy, so after some convincing we settled on two and he doesn’t have to worry about me pushing for a third because I can’t imagine putting my body through that again. My son has a little brother, so now our family feels complete.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  vblanch.

• ChelseaGabrielle
• 5 years ago

1 to 2. I want 1 and see what life is like and maybe start for number 2 when number 1 is about 3years old. DH wants 2. But he has also agreed that we should see how we like live with 1 child before deciding. We know our lives will revolve around our child, but we just want to keep a good balance between our personal relationship/intimacy and our family dynamic. So we will see!

• chaibella
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2015

The plan is 2.  I’d love to have a big family, but I don’t think I can mentally, emotionally, or financially care for more than 2 kids.  That my change in the coming years, but as of right now, the plan is 2.

• jubiebee
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2016 - Temescal Lake House

I would like 2-3. Fiance wants 3-5…. We’ll see lol. We both come from huge families (I’m the youngest of 9, him of 8) and I have a loved it. 

• wanderlustmama
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

We have 1 and we’d like another in a few years.

I was definitely ambivalent and open to just having 1 because I don’t believe in that idea that only children are spoiled, socially awkward or entitled – it boils down to how they are raised.

However, what actually made me reconsider was my mom’s terminal illness – when she was diagnosed, it was easier and more comforting to talk to and lean on my brother for emotional support than on very close friends. My husband was incredibly supportive but having someone you grew up with and who has the same relationship as I do with my mom helped a lot.

• Haageedoo
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2016

Four. I already have one. She’s autistic and will really need the family support when I am gone. I have 1 sister that I do not speak to and havent seen in 6 years. I really hope I can provide her the support network that I really wanted with my sister. 

• izzy2291
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: May 2016

We are hoping for 2 boys and 1 girl. We will be thankful for whatever we get! 

• amybeth689
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2015

I’d like 3 or 4, but my husband really only wants 2. So we’ll have to see. We’re still enjoying our life as newlyweds though, so no kids in the immediate future!