Post # 1
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Newbee
Fiance and I are having 7 each in our bridal party. I had a hard time choosing my Maid/Matron of Honor but ended up going with my closest friend from home/growing up, who I have known the longest to by my Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance chose his best friend from college in lieu of his two brothers (so that neither would feel excluded).
However, I ended up wanting to add another Maid/Matron of Honor – one of my best friends now who introduced me to Fiance and he’s wanting to add his brothers.
Should I add one more Maid/Matron of Honor to even it out? Or just keep the two? It wouldn’t be just obligatory to ask this third Bridesmaid or Best Man to be Maid/Matron of Honor, we are close, but I’m worried that it will be too many to have 3 each (out of 7) and also that the other BMs will feel even more left out if I add a third (since a few of them are a group of friends from home).
Should I have three MOHs or just leave it at two and have it be uneven?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I have two and a VERY large bridal party, but I feel like having 3 maids of honor, takes away from the honor.
My MOHs are my sister and my best friend for 26 years – theres no way I could choose between them.
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I have 2 – my sisters. I think 3 may be a bit much but it’s your wedding do what you want! You can have 3 best men and 2 MOHs – no big deal!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@pbhatta4670: I have two MOH’s because I’m having 2 ceremonies so one for each! Makes it a bit easier and I was able to incorporate both of them equally 🙂
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I had two, they are my best friends and are twins so…. 🙂
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I have 2. My best friend and my SIL. I couldn’t choose. Especially since I knew they would both be around helping me with the planning. I think 3 would be a bit much. Fiance only has one Best Man so we are uneven and I think it will be fine. My SIL and brother had 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Best Man and it was fine.
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
I have 2 because I couldn’t choose. I would not add one just to make it “even.”
Post # 10
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Newbee
Hmm okay – thanks for the perspectives, bees! I think I’ll stick with the two then…