(Closed) how many nights of hotel am I obligated to pay for our officiant???

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not sure about the tip, but I would not pay for a 2nd night. You’re already paying for one night, which is understandable; but there’s no need for him to be there 2 nights. It sounds like he’s trying to have a mini-vacay on your dime.

Post # 4
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is a tough one. I agree with CaraMia that it sounds like he’s trying to have a mini-vacation at your expense, but for some reason, the fact that he’s a Catholic priest makes it hard for me to say that. I feel like priests should be above doing that for some reason…

At any rate, say he did attend your 3pm dinner– how late do you think he would stay? I don’t think he would stay too late… maybe a couple of hours, max. So maybe he’ll split around 5pm. And if it takes about 3 hours to drive that 150 mile journey, he should be home by 8pm– that’s really not late enough to warrant another night at a hotel.

Did he say why he wants the extra night? Is he not used to driving? Is he older? Does he have a hard time driving at night? Maybe he has a reason for asking for the extra night and we’re just not seeing it.

Either way, if you decide to get him the extra night (without him giving you a good reason… which I’m not if sure you’re supposed to question a priest…), I would think about having that be (part or all of) his tip.

Btw, how much is the hotel, per night?

Post # 5
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

Is he an older guy perhaps?  I know that some of our older relatives hate to drive at night.  If not I would have to agree with everyone else that he is looking to get a mini-vacay from it.  Personally I would pay for the second night and then tip him less if that was the case.

Post # 6
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would definitely pay for the 2nd night.  We will be paying for the Rabbi who is doing our wedding to stay the night before the wedding and the night of the wedding aka 3 days, 2 nights.  I think its quite reasonable.

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