How many no shows did you have?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry, that is really crappy!  People should know in this day and age that weddings are expensive and it’s better to RSVP no rather than say yes and not show up!   Hopefully it didn’t cause you any stress or anger on your actual day. 

We only had one no-show fortunately.  I don’t know what happened to him but I had a feeling he wasn’t going to show up; however, as he had RSVP’d yes, we had to have a meal for him.   We did have three other people who weren’t able to be at the reception at the last minute but one had let us know ahead of time (her daughter was due on our wedding day and went into labour the night before the wedding) and the other two had to rush to hospital as one of them had a bad allergic reaction during the ceremony.  Both were completely understandable and fortunately, our venue was awesome and didn’t charge us for those meals…. although we did get charged for the one no-show.  

Sigh, I feel like this is one of those things where people do it until they’re in the position where it’s their wedding or a close family member’s wedding, and then all of a sudden they have the lightbulb moment of wow, that’s actually not cool to do!  

Have you found out from anyone who didn’t show why they weren’t there?  Some of them could have very legitimate reasons for not showing up.  Still though, sorry to hear about that.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had 3 no-shows and 10 (ahem) surprises. And I just found out that we had 25 people show up for just dinner and leave. No ceremony, no cake. Didn’t even say hello or goodbye. Found out from family and photos. Oy!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had two no-shows with one day’s notice, six cancellations with about five day’s notice, and one relative who didn’t RSVP and who my mother-in-law said was kind of a maybe who didn’t end up showing up.  So, no one said yes and then just didn’t show, but we did end up paying for people who canceled after the caterer’s final count deadline. 

That was out of 51 guests.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had 15 noshows out of 85 guests

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I will be highly pissed if we get no shows from ppl who rsvp’ed yes… but I can understand if they are sick or a death or something… but if they just dont show up ill be mad!! haha

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m also dreading this possibility. It’s just so incredibly rude and insensitive. Grr.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m getting anxious about this. My wedding is this Thursday. In the past 2 weeks, we’ve had 6 people that RSVP’d yes, email and tell us they can’t come. I have a family of 5 that said yes, that has switched to a “maybe”. Then in the last 2 days my fiance’s mom emailed and said a distanct cousin might be in town and if he is, can he come? And a lady from my church just informed us that her son and daughter-in-law will be in town that day so she’s bringing them to the wedding too. There has been so much stuff like this. It’s crazy so I fully expect a bunch of people to not show up, but I’m also thinking random people will show up. Weddings bring out the worst manners in people.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

Oh my goodness, 15 no-shows! That’s crazy! And so rude! You’ve already paid for their meal (not to mention the chair, place setting, centerpieces, etc.). I don’t think that amount is totally normal–at least I hope not because I don’t want that many no-shows on my wedding day! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I went to a wedding earlier this year and I am not kidding about half the reception no showed!! I felt terrible almost half the tables were empty.  That was incredibly rude.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Techincally we had 0 no shows.  We had a family of 4 not come after rsvping yes, but with good reason and a day’s notice I think

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Fortunately we only had 2 no shows and 1 not-quite-surprising substitution.

One no-show told our common friends going ahead of time but didn’t get a hold of me until after the wedding. Her work scheduled her on Thursday to work another wedding and she couldn’t find someone to cover.

Another we still haven’t heard from.

The substitution we were almost expecting. A member of the house party was dating Guy1 for a while. We thought they were “steady” but turns out they were off and on. She brought a surprise date of Guy 2 to our officiant’s wedding 10 weeks earlier. She called us the week of to see if Guy1 could come to our wedding (we had already sent him an invite, never got a response and when Guy 2 showed to the other wedding assumed him a no). We said sure and surprise, surprise Guy 3  is there with her! He was at least a gracious guest

We also had 8 non-RSVPs but 6 were expected, and 2 were mildly expected.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had 3 no-shows. One was our Best Man, and his date and the other was my uncle.

My Maid of Honor probably would have been a no-show too, except that 21 days before the wedding she decided to tell me over FB that she won’t be attending. At least she told me.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

One, my DH’s nephew that even RSVP’d late.   My ILs did pay for my SIL and her other child to come even though she said she hated crowds, and she was still a no-show.  (She has some mental health issues and it was probably best that she didn’t come.)

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