Post # 1
We were planning a smaller wedding (70-75 people). We ended up inviting about 120 people total. When we turned in final numbers, we were at 68 guests, still waiting on a couple cousins to give a 100% answer. Within 3 days of the wedding, we had 12 people who had RSVped yes tell us that they couldn’t make it. On the day of the wedding, we had 4 people tell us that they wouldn’t be coming. Also, 8 people no-showed. That’s about 1/3 of our original “yes” that backed out at the last minute.
We were able to invite some very last minute guests (friends of friends who lived locally) just so that we weren’t completely eating that cost, and ended up with 56 people in attendance.
Just curious as to what percentage of people no-showed or backed out at the very last minute?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Yikes! Your guests seem rude. We had one guest not come because of a sick baby. She told us 28 hours prior to the wedding and we filled in her spot. I’ve never heard of anyone having many no-shows, maybe one or two per wedding?
Post # 4
We had three people back out with very good reasons (health related). I know for sure that the others just didn’t show but his mom bullied us into making them as yes so I didn’t think they would show. Outside of that I didn’t even look at the place card table because I just didn’t want to know. I’m sure there were a few more that didn’t show but they weren’t important enough that I noticed (whoops that sounds a little mean).
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@somerrae: Did you have a DW? I cannot believe that many people no-showed on you! That is a HUGE financial waste.
We had 100 people and 7 no-showed. 2 friends, 5 shitty family members.
Post # 6
@somerrae: wow I can’t believe that! How rude!
Post # 7
I don’t quite understand the new definition of “destination wedding”. I always known a destination wedding to be out of the country, over seas or generally far away for everyone involved. I don’t get a wedding being considered “destination” because a couple people have to travel. With that being said, our venue was an hour from our house and about the same for everyone on my side. However, most of Mr.’s family had to travel to attend. We understood the last minute cancelations from guests who had to travel far, but most were from local guests.. and with them posting on FB that day, I was able to see that they didn’t have “emergencies”.
A friend’s sister had 150 people RSVP, and only 100 show up. So I was thankful that we didn’t have 50 people not show! Maybe it is our circles of friends who are just really inconsiderate, but it seems to be pretty common to have a good amount of people not show up. Hell, when my Maid/Matron of Honor got married, one of her BMs was a no-show.
Glad to hear that everyone else has better friends and family!
Post # 8
We invited a total of 60 people (ourselves included) to our wedding which will take place on Friday. We currently have 46 yeses. My Godmother backed out with yet another imagined illness just today. One of my “best friends” said she asked for the time off from work months ago. but never heard back, so she’s not coming. My cousin just recently canceled cuz she has to work (it’s a holiday weekend, she works in a hospital, and she’s a new employee)… we’ll see how many actually show up on Friday!
We had a wedding in his country in January. We had 6 people back out after they’d already RSVP’d… including his sister. Ugh.
Post # 9
I’m lucky in that for my wedding, we have to have a 200 person minimum, but if we have no-shows, we get to keep all of the leftovers. I’m planning on having leftovers, so we just have to bring our own containers and the banquet staff pack it up for us.
So if we have no-shows, it’s their loss, not ours! Plus I loooove left overs. 🙂
Post # 10
A destination wedding for me is if lodging must be arraged for your guests to attend.
Our wedding would be considered a Destination Wedding because it’s 9 hours away, even though it’s in the same state. Our families live in San Diego and our wedding is in San Francicso.
Post # 11
@landlubber: That’s the same way the catering at my shower is going to work. Leftovers are great, but I’m terrified that a lot of people will no-show and I’m going to have 30 servings of bacon and various brunch items in my fridge LOL
Post # 12
We had 2 actually NO SHOW and at least 1 guest brought a date who wasn’t originally invited…and I think we may have accidentally not ordered a vendor meal for at least one vendor so in the end I think it all balanced out.
The week before though, oh my everyone and their grandma had come down with this or that…some were elaborate tales of impending death, others suddenly got mono and made sure to post how contagious of a disease it is…lol…it was like peeps it’s okay to say you can’t come. You don’t have to be dying to decline a wedding invite. So once those were all relieved of their wedding attendance obligations their health returned to sane and we just invited some local friends who apparently had really been wanting to come but we hadn’t thought of them…so again it all worked out.
But it’s amazing how many people come down with life threatening illnesses the couple days leading up to a wedding. Weddings sure do bring out the cray.