(Closed) how many of confirmed guest show up at wedding ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Do you think that we will be safe booking the church with 175 guests, even though it holds about 130
    Yes, not everyone will show up to the church : (7 votes)
    27 %
    No, don't take that chance on your wedding day! : (18 votes)
    69 %
    I have no idea! : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This is a big NOOOOO. Do not invite more people than your venue can handle. 100% of the people who RSVP’d yes came. I would have been really insulted if people came to the party but not the wedding, actually….something you may want to keep in mind for future weddings you attend. If they are good enough friends to get free food and booze from, they are good enough friends to actually sit through their wedding.

    Post # 4
    869 posts
    Busy bee

    Don’t do it!!! WAY too stressful!

    Post # 5
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Definitely don’t invite too many people for your venue, just in case! We invited around 120 and only 80 or so actually showed up. I think 100ish had RSVPed “yes.”

    Post # 7
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I guess it depends on your circle, I know with our family and friends weddings are considered an all day event and almost everyone attends the ceremony and the reception. Hoping that 40 people don’t show up is risky though… That’s almost 25% of your guests. 

    Post # 8
    673 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ve been invited to weddings from people all over the country, and I had never heard of this concept of guests who don’t bother to show up for the ceremony and only come for the free food and (usually) booze at the reception.

    Cut your guest list to the maximum that either venue can hold or find a new venue. Will you turn people away if they show up to your ceremony and the room is full? How are you prepared to handle it if someone who you invited to share in your day shows up and is turned away because you didn’t balance out your guest list and venue? I know I’d be pretty pissed and would likely believe your invitation was only to get a gift out of me since you clearly weren’t prepared to actually host the number of people you invited.

    I think the idea of A & B guest lists is pretty tacky since it lets people know exactly much (or little) you think of them compared to others, but even that is better than turning people away from the door because you invited 70 people too many.

    I would also add that while you think only about 175 will show up, be prepared for every single person. I’m pretty sure every bride can relate a story of people who they “knew” wouldn’t show up responded with a positive RSVP.

    Post # 9
    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    There might be a couple of people who don’t make it to the church on time, but you’re talking about 45 to 70 people! Youshould plan for the possibility that everyone attends.

    Post # 10
    7606 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’ve never skipped out on the ceremony personally.

    Post # 11
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    A few people may skip the ceremony, but it’s pretty unlikely that 35% of those invited will miss it! Cut the list or move your ceremony. There’s not any other options.

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