(Closed) How many of us are using fertility medications?

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Post # 750
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

waitingbee: I am sorry ๐Ÿ™ We all understand, and its ok to cry and be upset! Take a day for you and you will feel better. Here’s to next month!

Post # 751
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Waitingbee – I’m really sorry!  I’m right there with ya.  Hope the weekend brings relaxation and some happiness to you after a crappy today. 

Post # 752
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Thanks girls I knew you would understand. I haven’t done this much crying in one day for a long time. I’m hoping the glass of wine takes the edge off. Have a great Friday night.

Post # 753
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have a sad story about a friend…

I met her last semester in school.  She and her husband were just about to start trying for a baby.  We were so excited thinking we would be pregnant together in grad school.  She is very healthy (Pilates instructor, nutrition counselor), so I thought for sure she would get pregnant before me, and she did.

She felt bad telling me, but of course I was so happy for her.  She lost the baby at 11 weeks (though really it was probably more like 8 when it actually happened).  During the D&C, they discovered that her uterus might be small.  At the time, they did not think this was related to the miscarrage.

She went to a specialist to see what the story was.  She thought she might need surgery to stretch her uterus before trying again.  Turns out she actually has a lot of muscle tissue growing into her uterus.  It is growing down like a triangle into her uterus.  On one side of it (where this pregnancy was) she can only carry to about 11 weeks.  On the other side, she can only carry to 5 months.  So bottom line is, she can not carry a baby.

She is going to get a 3rd opinion, then maybe a fouth.  She is perfectly fertile, ovulates, has regular periods.  They only found this by chance.  They don’t think there is a possibility of surgery because there is so much muscle tissue.

This really put things into perspective for me.  My problem (not ovulating) is fixable.  My chances of carrying a healthy baby are quite high.  I WILL get pregnant, and be able to carry it.  She never will.  Think of how lucky we all actually are.  Our REs would not be seeing us if we all didn’t have a decent chance at becoming moms.  Hearing her story made me realize just how lucky I am.

Post # 754
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@heathaah: I agree, its stories like this that put it all in perspective.

It may take some time for some of us but we have to be thankful that it is even possible.

Sending baby dust your way.  It’s gotta be your month soon ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 755
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@heathaah: Oh my goodness, that is such a sad story. I cannot even imagine how your friend is feeling =( That would be such a shock and horrible experience to find out about her uterus and not being able to ever carry a child, let alone cope with losing her baby ughhhh. It really does put things in perspective for us ladies who have trouble ovulating, but have hopes that we will be able to get pregnant and carry children.

Post # 756
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hello ladies…

I posted a few weeks ago and am taking your advice to get my husband tested before I start clomid. He is going in next week and then I’ll make my appointment.

Something terrible happened to one of my friends last week and I wanted to share it here as I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it.

My friend has a year and a half year old boy who is completely adorable. She has been begging me to start trying since she became pregnant, but my husband and I wanted to wait a year after we got married to go off BC. Once we started TTC, she was asking me about it constantly and I finally had to tell her to stop asking because it was taking longer than we had hoped and I didn’t want to be reminded constantly. I always kept her updated when I was going through the initial blood work and doctor appointments and she always gave me “advice” and kind of made me feel like I was an idiot because it took her 2 minutes to get pregnant. I know this wasn’t her intention, but when I would tell her things like “my doctor said I need to relax so I’m trying not to obsess over it” she would say “I was totally obsessed and it didn’t make any difference with me.” 

She had said that she was planning to start trying for her 2nd baby in April (this was back in October). I kept having issues and I would tell her about it – she knew more than any of my other friends and not because I’m closest to her, but because she was the most interested. I remember telling someone (maybe my mom?) that if she got pregnant before me, I would be devastated.

In december, she called me and told me she was pregnant. It was still early and she hadn’t told her family, but she wanted me to know. She went on and on about how she started trying and knew right away that she was pregnant because she had vivid dreams and her boobs hurt. She talked about how the lines on the pregnancy test were kind of light so she was worried it wasn’t real, but she had gone to the doctor and they had confirmed it.

I hate to admit this, but I was pissed. I cried so hard that night and even had thoughts of ending my own life (not serious thoughts, just fleeting – don’t worry, I’ve been seeing a therapist). I had this feeling that she had done it on purpose just to “beat” me. I know that is a crazy thought and I wish I didn’t think that way, but I did. I couldn’t talk to her because I was terrified she would keep talking about the pregnancy and I couldn’t handle it. I was insanely jealous.

Well, she went in for her 14 week ultrasound last week and there was no heartbeat. She lost the baby at 13 weeks and 4 days. 

I feel like an awful person. The baby was the size of a lemon. She had to get a D&C and I watched her son for a bit while she recovered. I know that these things happen for a reason, but I can’t help feel like my negative energy had a hand in it. Ugh it just makes me sick.

Anyway, the point of me sharing this is to remind us all to be happy for others when they become pregnant. Even though we might feel jealous or angry, it is so important for us to remember that one day we will be the ones with the good news and someone else might be jealous of us. We have to try to focus on the positive and be happy for others (even though I’m the first to admit it is SO hard).

Post # 757
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

heathaah: That is so sad ๐Ÿ™ I can’t imagine how she is feeling, that would be so horrible.

Amy: Your negative thoughts did cause that to happen, so please don’t feel that way. Life has a way of working itself out the way it is supposed to and you have to remember that. It is very hard to be happy when people around us get pregnant, and its ok to feel upset by it, so please dont feel guilty.

These sad stories have me down!!!! We need to talk about something happy! I know a few of us ladies are taking at least a month, if not more, off from trying, so what are you doing during this time?! My hubby and I are going to go out dancing on Saturday! We haven’t gone for so long, so I am really excited. We are also enjoying random, unscheduled, mindless sex! ๐Ÿ™‚ What are you girls up to?

Post # 758
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

@AmyM83: That is so similar to what just happened with my sister! (See page 18 I think).  It took me about a week to sort out my feelings about her being pregnant and start getting excited about it and by the time that happened, she miscarried.  I felt really bad too.  All of this is just so tied into emotion and so hard to control the way we feel!!  I totally agree that being happy (or trying to be) actually feels better in the long run.

Post # 759
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@heathaah: DAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM I am so sorry to hear that. I wouldn’t know how I would feel if I couldn’t have or carry a baby. This story will give me hope, and to be grateful. My situation is not good, but there is still hope to have a baby. I am so sorry to hear this.

Post # 761
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@Rosie Girl:  You are right…we need happy posts!  I have Judge Judy on right now for a good laugh..I highly reccommend it!  And I got all my school work done!  Wooohooo!  And Darling Husband and I are planning a ski trip before I start my next round of Clomid.  I haven’t skied in um….18 years!  So, yea, scarrrrryyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!  But we are getting a room with a Jacuzzi!!!!

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