Post # 77
This question creeps me out cause it makes it sound like BJs could be just a bargining tool, and not something intimately fun or something you give someone you love even if it’s not your favorite thing. I mean, if you really don’t like it, or it’s traumatic, don’t do it. But if you’re going to do it it should be fun for both, or at least fun for one and ok for the other but NOT a bargining tool! I feel sex related things should never be a bargining tool! I hope that makes sense and I didn’t mean any offense! And it’s just my thoughts/feelings.
Post # 78
I used to dole them out fairly frequently but now that we’re ttc for almost a year, we don’t like to waste potential babies. Haha. But still as foreplay for sure.
Post # 79
yes! i do all the time… i mean lets be real… i love him going down, im sure he enjoys it just as much.
when its makeup sex i rarely do it, unless it was my fault lol!
Post # 80
I feel bad for the guys that fall under options 2 and 3.
Post # 81
I don’t have or perform oral sex very often (like as once a year). However, I’ve never had make up sex.
Post # 82
People actually have make-up sex??
That being said, I haven’t had sex since mid May and blowjobs come even less often than sex, but not because I don’t like giving them.
Post # 83
I love to give it, but SO can’t finish with me doing it. After like, 15 minutes my jaw gets sore and I just hop on and BAM… he’s done.
He still loves me to try though 😛
Post # 84
We don’t have make up sex. I wouldn’t mind doing it, but he refuses to trim so I don’t do it. He also doesn’t reciprocate the favor…
Post # 85
I like to pleasure him, and I don’t mind swallowing or the taste but my jaw locks up and gets pretty sore, and he lasts a long time so I can almost never do it to completion. More as a foreplay thing.
Post # 86
I have never given my husband a bj to make up for anything. I do give many bj’s though for fun, pleasure & love. 🙂
Post # 87
Totally know what you mean – jaw pain blows hehe
Post # 88
I don’t do anything sexual as a bargaining chip or to make up for something. Seems like a slippery slope to where you might have sex as repayment only or tit for tat kind of things. I don’t know, to each her own, but it isn’t how we do things.
Post # 89
I have jaw problems, so I don’t do it as much as he or I would like. I would say probably once a week? Sometimes less, sometimes more. I have used it to “butter him up”, though. The five minutes after a blowjay is the time when my guy is the most persuadable lol.
I would probably do it more if I enjoyed it more, or if my jaw didn’t freak out as much. I enjoy it because it makes him happy and feel good, and he finds it sexy when I do it, but I don’t enjoy the act itself so much, if that makes sense.
Post # 90
I sometimes do if I dont feel like having sex, if I want a favor lol, or for foreplay. But I dont do it often even though he loves it. When we first started dating we were pretty into eachother so I would do it just about everyday. And we had sex about 3 times a day. Now were lucky if we have time for more than 3 times a WEEK. lol.
Post # 91
i cant wait until we are married so i can just let him have sex with me and not have to worry about the blowjob. i really dont like doing it, the taste is so bitter and salty