(Closed) How many of you have had an argument with your SO which was caused by Facebook?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever had an argument with SO which directly started due to Facebook?

    Yes- He did something on FB which caused a minor arguement

    Yes- He did something on FB which caused a major arguement/breakup

    Yes- I did something on FB which caused a minor arguement

    Yes- I did something on FB which caused a major arguement/breakup

    Yes- We have both done something which caused an arguement on Facebook (minor)

    Yes- We have both done something which caused an arguement on Facebook (major/breakup)

    No- We have never had an arguement which involved Facebook

    No- We do not have Facebook

    Other (please explain)

  • Post # 31
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    FB caused an argument between my (then FI) now DH, bit not because of something we did but because of what one of his “friends” did.

    DH and I are both super open about who we talk to, what about, ect. We use each other’s phones and leave our FB and emails open with no hesitancy. There are no secrets between us and I love it.

    One night though, we were watching a movie and DH fell asleep. His phone started to go off saying he had messages on FB. Thinking it could be his mother or another family member, I opened it up. It wasnt a family member but a friend I had never met and he had never told me about. Her message was “OMG you’re engaged!?” At that point we had been engaged about a year already and had just bought our home a few months prior.

    So thinking nothing of it I reply with a “yup :)”. Her reply? “why? Why would you get engaged now? Don’t you want to go out and f**k hot babes any more!?” umm… What? She just kept going on an on about how being with me was a mistake and how he should be sealing p***y elsewhere…

    This girl that I had never met, never even knew he was talking to was saying all these horrible things as my DH was asleep next to me. i didn’t know where all this was coming from or what prompted this. So I scrolled back up through the convo history. My DH had been MASSIVLY flirting with her for months. Saying things like how beautiful she was and how she must have guys all over her, ect… Ok, so maybe I lied when I said it wasn’t something he did…

    To say I was pissed was an understatement. Instead of doing anything to his FB, phone or him, I shut it off and walked away from him and went to watch a movie in another room until he woke up alone and confused. We had an argument as soon as he found me. I yelled an cried (really our first fight ever) and he deleted her from his FB on his own accord. we talked through trust and where the line was in flirting. Things have been good since then, but I was rip shiiiiiit

    Post # 32
    Member
    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    Carmela: Exactly that.  It’s like it’s impossible to remove a person from your life after a break-up or falling out.  Unless you cut out all shared friends and family on there as well, chances are you are going to have them popping up in your news feed and/or they will know everything you’re up to as well.  It’s rather disturbing!

    In my case, Fiance and his ex were together 6+ years.  So shared friends, family members, etc. are amongst the people she is still “friends” with.  For the record, he deleted her long ago.  I know the family members don’t have her on there maliciously but as the wedding approaches, I feel uncomfortable knowing that they will be posting pictures of our day that she will be able to see.  Am I strange?  I don’t think so….  We’ve decided to speak to family members (who don’t talk to her anymore anyways) in the next month or two and ASK (worth a shot!) that they either limit her, not share pics on there or delete her.  I would hope that wasn’t too much to ask but we’ll see.

    The other weird thing is that people tend to feel obligated to remain “friends” on FB after breaking up.  WHY!?  Why would you torture yourself or each other like that?  You need to cut the ties completely… it’s just not normal to pretend to be friendly when chances are, one person is pining for the other.

     

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