(Closed) How many of you live/lived with your SO before marriage?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Busy bee

Yep, we moved in together after a few months of being boyfriend/girlfriend. Got married about 6 months later. Wouldn’t generally recommend this timeline though, unless you’re damn sure that you’re deeply in love! Happily I had never been surer of anything in my life.

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Post # 17
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Newbee

It is one of our conditions for engagement that we live together for at least six months first. I honestly couldn’t imagine marrying someone without living with them. I know I’m not the best person to live with so it is a very important condition for me. We’ve been together for 2.5 years and living together permanently since September last year. Before that he would spend three or so nights a week at my place.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My SO and I got together in August of 2014 and he came home from living out of state in October. I moved in with him in December of 2014. We weren’t enegaged until May of 2015. We’ve been one hell of a team so far and it feels pretty great having that extra support there.

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Post # 19
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Blushing bee

i moved in with SO last november, after 1.2 years together. we aren’t engaged yet. i am also “team never marry before living together”.

Post # 20
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Busy bee

We moved in together after 4 months. It’s been fun; I highly recommend.  

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

I moved I with my then bf after 6 months of long distance dating. We are now engaged and have lived together for 5 years. We will have been living together for 6.5 years by the time we get married. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

SO and I moved in together after 3 months of dating. It sounds absolutely crazy but when you know you know. 

We’ve lived together now for 10 months and had no issues with living together at all. He has 2 children who we have every other weekend and even that has been a relatively smooth transition. 

SO has bought a ring and I’m expecting a proposal within the next month or so. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

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thepinkflamingo:  Yep, it sounds crazy, but it doesn’t feel it at all, right?? We’ve never had any issues living together either, everything was immediately natural and right. Can’t imagine having waited that extra 6 months to be married. We’re a little more down the track now: just celebrated our 8th anniversary (of marriage) and living together is as wonderful as ever! Pre-congratulations on your opcoming engagement.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

We’ve been living together since the one year mark. He needed help with his mortgage, I paid him board. Also I was not in a good living arrangement with my sister so we decided I’d move in with him.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I moved in with him right around 3 months in, because I didn’t like living 20 miles from him and was 21 and fairly impulsive. I wouldn’t generally recommend moving in with someone so soon, but it worked out for us: we got engaged a little over a year after that, and now we’ve been happily married for going on 2 years.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

The closest we came to living together before we were married was in college when our dorm rooms were down the hall from each other lol! We were together for four years before we got married but we always lived separately, and it was only because of our personal beliefs… we’re both super conservative that way. However my brother and his girlfriend share an apartment and really love it! In some ways I think they’re ahead of the game because in my opinion one of the most stressful things about the first few years of marriage is learning to live with each other and share a home, and they will already have that figured out. Sorry to hear about your sister, that sounds like a crummy situation. :/ Good luck, hope everything works out for you!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We have lived in two homes together before being engaged, we bought a house three years ago. I wanted us to live together for a while and have a few holidays (vacations) before getting engaged. I feel like that was when we truly knew each other and how we are in day to day life. There were so many little things we didn’t know about each other before we lived together.

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Oh and we absolutely loved living together. Just last night we were looking at photos of our first place, we have such fond memories.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

 just don’t understand how people get married without living with each other first. That concept is so foreign to me. I’ve been with my SO for two years and we’ve been living toget for 14 months. I think we’ll get engaged in the next 12 months or so but there’s no way I would be so keen to say yes if we’d lived apart. It might just be where I’m from but that’s pretty much the norm here in Australia. all of my friends have lived with their partners; the married ones and and single/non married relationships. 

Post # 30
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Newbee

On our one-year dating anniversary he asked me to move in with him once we found A place and had the money.   We’ve been together almost 5 now. We moved in together (both leaving our parent’s respective ‘nests’ at the same time) almost two years ago. Before that we shared a room at his parents house for a few months due to a spat with my parents. We recently got engaged, on Christmas Eve. 

 

Since neither of us had any experience living on our own, without parents/siblings around, it took some getting used to. Once we got a routine down and decided who was responsible for what “chores” it got easier. 

 

We’re not getting married until Spring 2017, and we custom designed the ring after he proposed. Since we’ve lived together so long, we basically share all our $ anyway, so there’s no way he’d have been able to get me a “surprise” engagement ring. 

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