(Closed) How many of you live/lived with your SO before marriage?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 91
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: garden/backyard - July 9, 2016

We moved in together after about 2 months, over 16 years ago…wedding is in July 🙂

We like to say we have the marriage thing down pat, time for the party!

Post # 92
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2346 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We didn’t. It was important to both of us to only share that part of our lives with someone who we were committed to as a spouse. Four years later, absolutely no regrets.

Post # 93
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

6 months in to our relationship  we sat down and talked abut how things were going really well and if they continued in that fashion we wold like to move in after 1 year together. A 1 year, still going great, so we talked about how we would like to get engaged before we reach year 2, and we moved in together. It is wonderful! We will be getting engaged in the next few months, and it is really nice having him here! We have been in it for the long term since the beginning, making plans and discussing what we want, instead of just floating along. And I think that has made the transition easier for us. 

Post # 94
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202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We’ve been together for 9 years and have lived together our whole relationship; first 3 years with roomates and the last 6 years alone. I don’t know why you wouldn’t want to be with your best friend all the time. We’ve only grown stronger over the years. Personally I always suggest living together before marriage. I know a few long term realtionships that have failed once the couple moved in together. 

Post # 95
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728 posts
Busy bee

I would advise ANYONE to live together before marriage personally. You think nothing will change even if you already basically live together but it does change when you’re paying bills together, grocery shopping, etc. Its an adjustment period. 

Post # 96
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Not me…I personally want to wait until me and my fiance get married next year before living together. Even though we see each other every weekend…I still enjoy my space (for now).

Post # 97
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

applecheeks:  when we started dating I lived with my mom ( I moved back home at 28 to help her get back on her feet after my dad walkd out on her the week of their 35th wedding anniversary….) I would stay over on the weekends and Wednesday nights. when he moved out of his apartment and got a rental house I slowly began spending more time over there and my mom was back on her feet and emotionally stable. I moved in about 4 months befor we got engaged and we closed on our first house the week after our honeymoon.

Post # 98
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585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Been together almost 6.5 years, lived together for over 4. We’ll be getting married next year. I have no regrets. I love spending every day with him. I still can’t wait to marry him, and I’m confident that we work well together since we’ve tested it out for quite some time!

Post # 99
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

applecheeks:  We dated for over 3 years before I moved in with him. I owned my condo, but his twinhome had more space. I actually debated over this for a LONG time, as I wanted to be engaged first before moving in; I would have to sell my home and find a new home for my cat (DH is severely allergic). We first talked about it after 2 years of dating, but I wasn’t ready. So, a year went by and things were still going great between us – and I made the decision to move in.

Unfortunately, my place didn’t sell for 3 months after being on the market (actually only 2, as we had a buyer within 2 days of being for sale but the sell fell through a week before closing)… so we still had our own bills to pay for those months. I still lived with him and my place sat empty. But, after it sold… 4 months after, he proposed, as he could actually save some money from when we combined bills.

Had I moved in a year earlier, we MAYBE would have been engaged sooner… but it’s hard to say. It is a big step, though. Some people are ready right away and others not so much.

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