Post # 1
this is self explanatory. How many of you plan on working after children? will both you and your husband work?
Im a teacher and I plan on continue working after we have a baby. With my career I will have summers off, along with mostly all vacation days. my fiancé and I talked about it and we just feel like it would be better to have 2 incomes. Plus my insurance is way better than my fiancé’s so we need to have me working for that, to be honest. We probably could swing it on my fiancé’s salary alone, but we want to take our kids on vacation and pay for at least part of their college.
Post # 3
We both work. I will work after we have children. I will not put myself behind in my career to stay home with children. The long term cost of that is huge.
Post # 4
I won’t vote and screw up the results, because it depends. If I’m in a great career, I will absolutely go back to work, and we will either hire a nanny or, if Future Father-In-Law is retired by then, he would love to watch our kids. Two incomes would be awesome. If my Fiance starts making bank after he’s done with school, then I could probably stay home.
Post # 5
I have gone back and forth with this. After my son I had no choice but to return to work because we needed two incomes. My husband works second shift so our son is with my mother-in-law only three hours a day. But I felt that I missed out on a lot, first crawl, first steps. After the next baby I plan to take the full 12 weeks off instead of 6 but will have to see if staying home is doable. I do freelance and would be able to work from home but that is not a stable income.
Post # 6
I’m a teacher too. I’ll go back to work. I love my job and just don’t think staying home would work for me (I’d love it but I’d miss my students and friends at school). I don’t have to go back to work, but Fiance and I talked about it and were both good with me going back.
Post # 7
@Glasgowbound: yea, I feel as if I would really miss teaching. I really do love my job.
Post # 8
I expect I will stay at home with my child for as long as maternity leave allows and then work part-time. I believe it’s important for children to be raised by their parents but I have spent so long in education (law school) that I’m not about to give up my career in a hurry!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I am a professional so taking more than a few months off will detriment my training and career prospects. Plus, I have really good insurance benefits which are very cheap compared to comparable plans with other companies.
Finally, I know I will love my child to pieces but I can’t stand the thought of being trapped at home with an infant and little mental stimulation during the day. Yes, there are mommy groups but I am one of those women who does not get along with other women very well so it is unlikely I will fit into one of those groups.
Post # 10
Personally, I never wanted to be a stay at home mom. As much as I love kids and I’m sure at first i’ll hate leaving them but theres not a chance I could deal with children 24/7 365. I need to be something else in life besides just a “mom”. I love my job and I worked way too hard and spent WAYYYY too much money on school to do nothing but watch children for a living.
My husband would probably like to be a stay at home dad or work only part time but financially we need both incomes.
Post # 11
I have a 10 week old and I’m back at work. I was open to the idea that I might want to stay home with her, but I was fairly certain that wouldn’t be what I wanted. I am actually much happier working right now- I’m not sure if that is because those first few weeks are very hard, or if it’s because I need that balance in my life. I honestly feel like, for me, I’m a better mother and more patient with her because I feel balanced as a person. I miss her while I’m at work, sure, so when I get home in the evenings I spend a lot of time with her, sometimes playing or snuggling or going out to the park or the pool. I feel more motivated to have really great quality time together because I don’t get to spend all day with her.
I should add that I probably would have tried to stay home longer if we were in a position to have to use a daycare facility. She goes to an in-home sitter 3 days a week and Mother-In-Law comes to our house 2 days a week. Since I went back to work SO early, we didn’t want her in a facility just yet. I like that I get text photos of her throughout the day, and I doubt there are too many daycares that would do that!
I also happen to make more money, and I work for a health system so my benefits are far better than DH’s. If either one of us were to stay home, it would likely be him. He has actually said he would love to stay home with her, but he’s got like neverending patience or something. He’s much better with children than I have ever been and he is a fantastic father (well, he puts her clothes on backwards or doesn’t put the diaper up high enough and she gets plumber crack, but hey- at least he’s changing her!)
Post # 12
@FoxyBride14: after kids, i’m probably going to work part-time/work from home, or if that’s not an option, go back full-time. i’m hoping we’ll be in a place where i can stay home most of the time, though.
Post # 13
I’m planning on working full time, but with flexible hours – I have my own photography business so will be able to create my own hours as needed. I also work from home so I will essentially be a full time Stay-At-Home Mom and a part time photographer. Every little bit extra counts, and I love what I do.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
4 weeks after DS was born I was going stir crazy and was happy to go back to work. And that was way back when I worked a crappy job. LOL
Now that we are considering TTC, the plan is that I would go back to work after a 12 weeks. I am much more of a homebody now then I was when DS was born, so I think I can handle 12 weeks at home this time. But I will not give up my career. I love what I do, I’m really good at it, and it’s part of my identity. We will likely have a nanny until LO is 15-18 months, and then he/she would go into daycare. I am lucky that my office is very family-friendly. We have a a designated space for moms to pump and we have a really nice in-house daycare center that is literally 2 floors below my desk, not to mention flexible work hours and the ability to work from home. My employer makes it as easy as possible for moms to return to work, and that makes a huge difference to me.
Post # 15
The poll should have more options. Darling Husband doesn’t want me to give up my job to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, which I would LOVE to do, but I make alot and it would significantly impact our living situation. So I WILL be going back to work, but not because I want to, bc I HAVE to. boo
Post # 16
Ideally I would like to work 3 days/week and have my mom take care of the child(ren) those days. I didn’t go to daycare myself and I’m not super comfortable with the idea of it. Plus my mom has said she would love to watch kids a few days per week as long as it wasn’t full time. So I think that would be a good compromise for us.