(Closed) How many out of town guests actually agreed to become a guaranteed guest??

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9251 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

What do you mean by guaranteed guest? Are you asking what amount of out of town guests rsvped yes to the wedding?

For me it was 100%. 

There is no way to judge this because it depends on a million different things that the individual guest to a particular wedding has to weigh up when deciding what to rsvp. Just because I had 100% of my out of town guests attend does not mean that Mary or Jane or Sarah will.

You invite the guests you can afford to host at your venue and then you wait to see their response. Whenever you host an event you take the chance that not everyone will attended.

Post # 3
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I don’t have an answer for you because we haven’t gotten that far, but we are expecting between 80 and 90% of our out of town guests to show.  There are some we are inviting out of obligation but know they won’t be attending (i.e. my great uncle is getting an invite but he’s in a nursing home and will not come).  At the end of the day, invite only what your venue can hold and you can afford.  You are setting yourself up for a big problem if you invite more.  

Post # 4
4884 posts
Honey bee

Always plan for 100% attendance.

It depends on relationship dynamics. Someone who is really close will probably make every attempt to be there regardless of distance.  If you aren’t close, they probably won’t (though that isn’t a guarantee).  Date and finances play a role as well.  So if you are close to 100% of the out of town people you are inviting, there is a chance you will have 100% attendance.  Relationship and the finances of your own family is going to play a much bigger role than the actual physical distance, so it really isn’t comparable from person to person.

Post # 5
6798 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Depends how far out of town is. Our ‘local’ guests, who had a 3-5 hour drive, all attended. Our other guests mostly did not. We had about a 50% rate of attendance. Due to where we live, guests had to travel 1-2000 miles. For the most part that was immediate family and best friends, with a couple aunts/uncles tossed in. Not sure what you mean by guaranteed, but no one responded yes and then didn’t show.

Post # 6
725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

All of the close friends and family that happen to live long distance are coming. The two LD guests we invited out of courtesy politely declined, but we were expecting that and invited them because they used to be very close and it felt wrong not to extend the invite. 

Post # 7
1996 posts
Buzzing bee

For me, it was 90% (from a different country). 

Post # 9
1610 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Hm not that many for us. We’re from Western Canada – we invited about 20 from Eastern Canada and 8 came, and we invited 20 from Poland (DH family) and only 2 came. Our venue had a 120 person limit, so knowing a lot of Poland family would RSVP no we sent out the Polish invitations early, then once we had a number from Poland we sent the rest out. Might not be good etiquette but worked well for us since that was 18 more invites we could send!

Post # 10
2165 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

We had about 85% of Out of Town guests RSVP yes and attend. Most are family and very close family friends. 

Post # 11
938 posts
Busy bee

We had been living in the city where our wedding was held for about 7 years when we had the wedding, so planning a wedding for where we lived made sense.  Our family traveled 3-5 hours to attend.  We checked with our VIPs before we planned for our wedding to be so far for them.  Once they said they would be willing to make the drive, we went ahead with planning the wedding there ๐Ÿ™‚  I hope you have fun planning and that it’s not too difficult for your families to attend!

Post # 12
14040 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My wedding was 500 to 1000 miles from almost all of our guests, and almost all of them came.  This included immediate and extended family as well as longtime family friends. 

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