(Closed) How many out there have done/are doing pre marriage or marriage counseling?

• Jinxstar
• 6 years ago

We did an all-day Saturday non-religious small workshop (I think it was six or seven couples total.) and it was extremely worth it.  It was my idea, and the $300 cost freaked him out a bit, but afterwards he said it was money well spent.  The early part was based on making sure you had the same basic vision for the marriage, and the latter part was communication skills and major areas where couples have conflict.  It was exactly what we needed, but they were clear this was not for couples who were having serious problems.

• Earlybride
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

We did it with our pastor. SO worth it! It has shown us useful ideas and tips on how to deal with each other and situations. I actually insisted on the marriage classes.

• MissGreen
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: June 2009

Well I’ll be honest and say we are in counseling currently. We’ve been married 2 1/2 years and this last year was shitty to say the least. We have dealt with infertility, deaths, my sister moving in after her seperation and divorce, myself going back to school and we work opposite shifts. We’ve lost communication the last 6 mths and were heading down the wrong road. We love our counseling. It’s helping us break down walls the we built as well as bringing us back to where we can communicate openly and freely. Alot of our sessions right now are focused on grief bc I’ve internalized my feelings on the infertility so much and he had no clue until I broke down over a friends pregnancy annoucement. I honestly didn’t realize how much I was trying to push my feelings aside as was he. I highly recommend it whether it’s before marriage or Ricky times. You don’t have to wait till things are so bad either. If you find yourselves heading down a rocky road, it definetly helps. 

• eliwhit
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2011

Post-wedding we did a small workshop on communicating with your partner. It is so incredibly helpful. It taught me to not get wound up in emotions so I can communicate effectively. Both of us were interested in attending (I would suggest that it be a mutual agreement to go so that you are both open to the class and learn without feeling bitter).

• DestinBride85
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

We are with our Pastor, he is also marrying us. Sunday was our first session after church..It was great and gave us ideas on how to improve our relationship. I think all couples should go through some type of counseling before marrying.

• Mrs.Enne
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband and I did premarital counseling with our pastor. It was a WONDERFUL experience. I am so glad we did it! It gave us a chance to talk about things that would come up in the future, like arguments and fighting fairly or how we planned on disciplining future children. Even though these are things we had discussed before, talking it through with our pastor allowed us to see potential places of conflict and discuss how we’ll deal with them in a healthy manner. I would recommend premarital counseling to any couple- with a religious leader, counselor, etc.

• ananeele
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: April 2012

I’m in it right now.  I think it’s helpful for me, but my SO isn’t an active participant so, at the moment, it’s a one-sided counseling session.

• MrsStrawberry24
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012

we did…we are also aprart of the marriage ministry in our church…..its a working progress. I think all couples could benifit from learning a few tools.

“marriage is possible with God….and impossible without him”…best thing my Pastor ever said to us