Post # 1
Unsure if there is another forum for this but how many guests did you invite to your wedding? How many RSVP’d yes And how many declined? Did you have to chase up a lot of guests after the RSVP date?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
We invited around 60 to the day, and about another 50 for the evening (I’m in the UK, so this is completely standard practice here, I’ve never been to a wedding which didn’t have additional guests for evening only, it’s not a social faux pas here).
I had about 5 people RSVP no to the day, so we managed to bump a few evening guests up to daytime. We had 3 no shows. For the evening, we probably had about 40 additional people show up.
I did have to chase RSVPs for about 10 day guests, which was a pain! There were quite a few evening guests who didn’t RSVP, some still came, some didn’t. I didn’t bother chasing them as it made no difference to the costs or amount of evening food.
Post # 3
We had an 80% acceptance for the daytime, which was 65 guests, and an additional 75% acceptance for the evening which resulted in about 30 guests.. A few evening guests no-showed but all our daytime guests were there.
It was mostly family to chase and some evening guests (work colleagues who just wouldn’t commit either way). It’s not so bad for evening as we just had to give numbers but the daytime chasing was annoying as it affected our room layout, tables, seating plan, centerpieces, order with the florist etc!
Post # 4
One RSVP’d no.
4 did not show up on the day.(one forgot about the wedding, one date got sick, two broke up and weren’t in a good place to come to a wedding- why they couldn’t tell us, I have no idea.)
I only had to follow up with two people. One needed till the last minute to know if she couldn’t, and one didn’t check yes or no, so I had to ask.
Post # 5
100 attended. 1 no show (sick on the day of).
Invited 180ish. Almost all my family members live on a different continent and the ones that do live in the USA are 3000 miles away so we knew almost all would not attend. Our attendence was very high for local guests though. Only a handful did not attend.
I only had to follow up with a few. Usually cases where someone didn’t rsvp because they thought their spouse had did it.
Post # 6
We had about 200 attend out of about 360 invited- I have a LOT of out of town family who all got invites, even Aunt Sharon who wasn’t expected to be able to travel, so we expected about that number of declines.
We did have to chase up a LOT of non-RSVPs. Mostly from his friends.
Post # 7
We are inviting 217 people – expecting around 150 to 175 show up!
Post # 8
We had a destination wedding and invited around 80 and 45 attended. It was exactly the amount we wanted!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
We invited 55 and got 48!
Post # 10
305 attended out of the 356 invited.
Post # 11
We invited about 260 and 220 rsvped yes and attended. I didn’t chase anyone down because most guests were from out of town and vocalized if they couldn’t attend (either formally or through text).
Post # 12
UK bee here.
Invited around 130 all day and another 80 in the evening.
128 all-day people RSVPd yes. 3 didn’t show up on the day due to illness. We had to chase about 20 people for an official response (dietary requirements etc), but most of those we did know they were coming. Some people couldn’t RSVP until really late for valid reasons (eg doctors waiting for their rota etc).
We had about 35 extra in the evening, at a guess, but I don’t even know exactly! We didn’t chase them for RSVPs as, like a pp said, it made no difference to the budget or venue capacity anyway.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills
We invited about 150 and 113 attended. A few relatives and close friends who lived out of town and had health issues last minute had to decline. Also, a lot of my husband’s clients who were invited (also out of town) didn’t make it. Overall though it was a good turnout!
Post # 14
If I remember correctly we invited close to 90or so and around 77 came. I do like that the wedding wasn’t too large nor too small though.
We had to chase down a good number of RSVPs. One person up until about a couple weeks before when we needed to give our final count didn’t know who they were inviting as a plus one and one of my friends flat out told me, “Oh, I didn’t know I had to send my RSVP back to you.” Why would I mail you something for you to fill out, that comes with a pre-stamped envelope, if I didn’t want you to send it back to me??? We also had a good number of people text or tell us verbally. OMG.. it takes 2 minutes to fill out your RSVP seal it and stick it in the mailbox.. It was pretty frustrating to shell out for nice RSVPs and stamps and have that happen.
Post # 15
We invited approximately 108. Around 30 of those were obligatory invites. We had 74 RSVP yes with 5 no shows and a surprise plus 1 (so net 4 no shows).
My friend had a no show rate of 20% with 80+ people rsvp’ing yes but less than 60 showing up on the big day.
I chased a couple people for responses and others were rsvped for by other invitees. We opted for text, phone call, FB messenger or email rsvp as most of our families lived out of state or out of the country.