Post # 1
I’m just curious to see how many people had guests bring gifts to the wedding?
My fiance and I live in Chicago, and are getting married in NY since that’s where we’re both from, and where most of our family is. On our wedding website, we kindly requested that guests ship gifts to our home in Chicago if possible, and we’re having friends and family spread the word via word-of-mouth as well if anyone asks. However, everyone keeps telling me I should plan for some people to bring gifts to the reception. I’d like to start thinking about making arrangements for transporting the gifts, so I was just curious what experiences others have had with this, especially if you live far away from your wedding venue. We’re also leaving for our honeymoon the day after our wedding, so it will most likely be friends and family transporting the gifts, which I wish I could avoid (I don’t want to burden them with the task).
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Didn’t Avo do/write/say something to encourage guests to not bring tangilble items — except easy-to-transport envelopes?
Post # 4
We received about 15 gifts at the reception. It was pretty split–all of my family brought cards (aka money) and almost all of my husband’s side brought gifts–the toaster, shower curtain, etc. We were lucky because our wedding was in our hometown, so we just had everything loaded into our car and drove it home in the morning.
Do you have a frame of reference from what happened at other family/friends weddings with a similar pool of guests? Like I was able to anticipate that my family would give us money because that’s what everyone did at my cousin’s wedding last summer. Whereas, at my husband’s cousin’s wedding a couple of years ago, everyone brought gifts (large, cumbersome ones!). Thinking of those two things, I was able to assume that each side would do similar things this time.
Post # 5
Thanks, Jessie516! Unfortunately, this is the first wedding on my fiance’s side in at least 10 years, and the first in my family since my MOM got married 30 years ago. So we really don’t have a frame of reference. My fiance said he thinks many of his family members will bring gifts to the actual wedding because they’re very traditional and sometimes don’t understand more modern day wedding guidelines, but my mom thinks only a few people on our side will bring a gift, and if they did, it would be a gift card or money.
But just in case, we’d like to have a plan of action.