Post # 1
My fiance and I toured three possible venues yesterday and let me say it was a less than ideal day. The original forecast of 65 and sunny was more like 42 and rainy with excessive wind. So basically we spent from 1pm-6pm touring (mostly) outside venues.
My mother hated every venue we looked at. Everything was “too sparse,” “too frumpy,” or “not classy enough.” Okay sorry mom let me get right on those $4000 grand ballrooms that we can totally afford. *endsarcasm*
Not to mention my mother suffers from anxiety issues due to driving on the expressway so when she wasn’t complaining she was(understandably) sick.
To cap off the day one of my BM’s broke her ankle by slipping on the grass (4 months before her own wedding)
Needless to say it was not the exciting event planning trip I was going for. I was so stressed about the rain that I forgot to ask the bulk of my questions and my time allotment between each tour was off so the six of us(fiance, mom, Bridesmaid or Best Man, sister, aunt/coordinator, and I) spent a large portion of the day driving around just killing time. lol
We have a few more places to look at over the next two weeks but I think I’m going to cut the entourage down to three(fiance, his mother and I) since I think the large group was an obvious problem. So I’m hoping the weather keeps hovering around 65-70 and there is no rain.
Post # 3
I took 2 of my sisters with me to a couple venues, and I even looked at a couple by myself, though I preferred having at least one other opinion. I think a group of 6 definitely seems too big – I think that many people can be a distraction, contributing to problems like you forgetting questions you wanted to ask.
I’d also suggest in the future maybe just looking at one venue on any given day, if your schedule will allow it. I think that if your mind isn’t on the other venues you have to visit later that day, you can really take your time looking at the place and chatting with the venue manager and making sure you get answers to any questions you have.
Post # 4
Yeah I wish we could do one a day but our schedules are just too crazy right now. He’s finishing up grad school and doing a fulltime internship. Then I work full time and coach a high school softball team. So when we schedule these things it unfortunately has to be a group of 3-4 places in one day otherwise we’ll never see the places we need to see.
But yeah I’m definitely bring a smaller group and not my mom. I love her to death and she such a great help but her opinions on the venues is just stressing me out(apparently she was the same way with my sister)
Post # 5
we did the first one our own, just the 2 of us. Then we did 2 with our parents, so it was the 6 of us. We ended up loving the one we did on our own so we took our parents back and that was that!
Post # 6
My Fiance and I went with my Maid of Honor back in February. We will most likely take his mom and maybe my mom around April. So they can get a feel for what the venue and surrounding area will look like during the month of our wedding.
Post # 7
I think six is too many… too distracting. I went and looked at several with my sister/MOH one day and then went another day with my Fiance. Both of them were great at remembering to ask certain question etc. We were able to be super efficient! Good luck!
By The Way: When we chose a venue I went back with my mom to show her.
Post # 8
I took my mom and Fiance to the first venue– my mom is footing the bill and wanted to be involved, and I was okay with that! It was both great and horrible having her there. I did NOT like the venue and she kept asking embaressing questions, so we got in a fight when we left.
ANYWAYS, the second place we looked at I KNEW would be the one before I even saw it in person, so I invited my parents and my FI’s mom and Fiance. It was great. All of us loved it and it suited us perfectly.
If you keep forgetting what to ask, I brought along The Knot’s Book of Lists and it was a great way to keep track of what I wanted to ask. I took notes and when I got home make a comparison spreadsheet to look at pricing and such.
Post # 9
No one. I wanted it to be just the two of us since we are paying for it and I wanted the surprise factor for our family members. Figures we’d end up going with my Grandmother’s place where everyone has been already, LOL.
Post # 10
Just Darling Husband and I. In fact, I saw our venue on my own (maybe with my mom) then brought him back and made appointments all in one day. We were paying so we did not need an okay from anyone else. When it came time for food, we took my mom to one tasting and to a cake tasting but mostly because we wanted another opinion and the places were near her house. I think the less people the better in any decision making process.
Post # 11
I just went with my parents…and in fact, they went to a few without me! Fiance didn’t even go with us and didnt see our venue until the tasting.
It’s like wedding gown shopping–when there are too many people, there are too many opinions. YOu need to go with someone that can see past what a venue may currently look like, and see how you can make it your own!
Post # 12
My mom went with me to tour them all because Darling Husband is military and was stationed elsewhere at the time. When we had it narrowed down to the one I wanted, Darling Husband came home and toured it again with me to give his seal of approval. When we did the tasting, both my parents and my grandma came.
I’m so sorry the day was such a disaster for you. 🙁 That really sucks.
Post # 13
We got as much information we could about different venues before going to any, and then we only had to visit one! It is beautiful. So my fiance and I arranged an appointment to see it one morning and fell in love with it, then took all four of our parents to see it when the venue had an Open House. They loved it as much as we did, and it means now we have seen it by day and by night. I’m pretty sure we had already paid our deposit by then, we just wanted to show it off!
Post # 14
We had myself, partner, my parents and his mum. And I felt that was too much! sooo many opinions.
Post # 15
Just my Fiance and myself went.
Post # 16
I took only 1 other person with me: My Fiance.