(Closed) How many people did NOT come to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had almost a 30% decline rate but our wedding was on a holiday AND a Monday. We ended up with the exact number we wanted.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We have 98 confirmed guests attending out of the original 120 invited.  It’s SO hard to try to guess at who will and will not come.  We had some BIG surprises both ways.  People we were certain wouldn’t come accepted, and others that we expected said no.  I can see working with an overage of no more than 4-6 people, but anything over that feels like a major risk.  I think because your guest list is quite large, you may want to look into the A and B list route, but be VERY careful in how you execute it with your deadline dates and time of mailing, because it can be easy for people to figure out they were B listed!

Post # 34
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper

Invited 160 and 130 attended.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

We invited at least 250 (it got fuzzy there towards the end…) and our venue fit at the very most 212.  100 declined, leaving us with 150, which was perfect.  Ours might have been weird, though, with a lot of out of town people and plus ones that weren’t used.  

We also had 4 people that didn’t show up but RSVP’d yes, but that was kind of expected (someone they were close to passed away the week before).

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

While you should never assume that a percentage won’t come… you can kind of assume that a percentage won’t come.  We invited 170 (and were VERY nervous) and had 110 show up (and were VERY relieved).

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

How tight is that 180? My venue told me 144 but then I talked to the event manager. She said it’s no big deal to add an extra row of chairs to the ceremony area or an extra table to the reception area. She also said the tables comfortably seat 8 but they can squeeze in 9 or even 10 if they had to. Our guest list right now is at 157. I know some won’t come but even if they all did I’ve been reassured that they wouldn’t be turned away. I think they give out that 144 number initially to help people find the right size space for their party. But when it comes down to execution, they might be able to make a slightly larger number work. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

We had about 30% say no, but that includes people who decided to not bring a +1.

That being said, we had 7 people rsvp yes and just not show up…. 5 of them were at the same table.      (and on top of that, my aunt, at the same table, turned her nose up and said no thank you when her dinner was served, so that was ANOTHER wasted meal that I paid 120 per person for… bitch)

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