(Closed) How many people did you bow to at your paebaek?

posted 8 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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18 posts
Newbee

Well it depends. Will you be wearing your wedding dress and then changing into your hanbok and then back into your wedding dress for the reception?  Because that alone will take more than 15 minutes to change into a hanbok and get back into a wedding dress.

Traditionally, paebaek is only done for the groom’s side of the family.  If you stick with that rule, than you can bow to your parents in laws (once), his aunts and uncles all at once (twice), and any of his siblings and cousins (three times).  If you want your family to be part of the festivities, you have to double the number.  Your parents (4 times), your aunts and uncles (5x), and your siblings and cousins (6x).  It easy to get away with putting other relatives in one big group but its not okay to mix families together for the ceremony.

At mine, I bowed to his parents (1x), my parents (2x), his aunts and uncles (3x), and his sister’s family (4x).  If you add all the clothes changing and waiting for people to arrange themselves, serving them the drinks, throwing the dates, etc.  I would say it took 45 minutes to about an hour.

hope this helps!

Post # 4
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18 posts
Newbee

PS:  because Paebaek is usually for the families and other guest do not usually care for it, I’ve known many friends and family who would do their paebaek at a seperate time.  They would do it at their homes a day before the ceremony or a day later.

Post # 5
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I bowed…………….the day before~ (My husband is korean, but I am taiwanese) I don’t know why my mother in law insisted on a public bowing…i didn’t like that at all! I preferred a private family bowing…..and they only threw 60 dates at us and NOT A SINGLE chestnut! I felt really sad lol…

There’s an order in which you bow…like Groom’s parents, relatives, cousins/siblings~ and Brides parents, aunts and uncles, cousins/siblings.  They can also share words of wisdom.

As misolee says, take into consideration of the changing time…it takes a lot of time to get in and out of outfits! a solution is to make the hanbok your evening outfit, and change into something else after the lunch.

Post # 6
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16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

When my siblings got married in Korea, they both did paebak at the end of the reception in a private room… it takes more than 15 mins for sure!!!

Me and my Fiance are planning on no paebak at our wedding… although I am wondering if it is worth it… we really need to get some money for our honeymoon!

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