(Closed) How many people did you have “no show” to your reception?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How many people did you have no show to your wedding
    1-5 : (31 votes)
    58 %
    6-10 : (12 votes)
    23 %
    11+ : (6 votes)
    11 %
    16+ : (2 votes)
    4 %
    And for all of you lucky girls.... 0 : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i had 4 in total but i heard from pretty much all.  1 couldn’t come because of finance problems.  her boyfriend was in our wedding party and the week before the wedding he was even unsure if he was able to come.  2 wrote 2 days before the wedding that they couldn’t take the day off from work and was planning to get off work early to drive from NY to New Husband for the wedding so I knew they weren’t going to make it but too late to change the numbers. and 1 was a daughter of someone who came.  The daughter had gotten sick.

    Post # 4
    Bee
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    We had 1 no show, and just over 5 months later we have literally not heard from him at all. Bizarre.

    Post # 5
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We had 4 people back out the week of the wedding-all good excuses of illness, DH’s cousin was hospitalized 2 weeks before our wedding and nearly died of an infection!

    Then we had 2 people no show to the wedding. We found out later that one of the toilets in their home overflowed and they were in the middle of clean up. I wish they had texted my Darling Husband or something so we would have known at the wedding. We just knew that they had no showed.

    Post # 7
    Member
    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I had zero, which I guess makes us pretty lucky. Everyone that was supposed to show up did. We had very few “no” replies to our wedding too (two or three if I remember correctly) which always makes me nervous when brides assume a certain number will reply no.

    Post # 9
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    barring sickness or serious injury, i just DO NOT understand why people do this. it’s so rude!

    Post # 10
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We had zero no-shows.  mostly everyone who was within driving distance made it.  most of our no rsvp’s were from international family members.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2463 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    one elderly couple cancelled the week before because of illness. totally understandable–and they told us far enough in advance to cancel their meals/not have to pay for them

    one couple cancelled then uncancelled then only 1 of them came. super super annoying to keep changing the catering count! such unnecessary stress the week before the wedding!

    one friend of hubby’s family was ill and didn’t come. one couple that were friends of my in-laws came to the wedding but left before dinner. apparently the woman didn’t speak much english and was uncomfortable–but so rude! we paid for their dinner and they didn’t even eat it?? just rsvp no then….!

    Post # 12
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    7365 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    1- who had been kind of iffy to begin with anyway.

    Post # 13
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    1288 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

    Zero. But my wedding wasn’t local for anyone, so it was a very deliberate choice to come.

    Post # 14
    Member
    3363 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We had 5…

    Two were people’s dates, so we didn’t actually know them.  But if you RSVP for two, bring someone…anyone!  We are paying regardless!!

    One was a neighbor who didn’t show because his daughter (who has been in and out of rehab) had gone missing that morning.  She is fine, but who know what she was up to that day.  He never told us why he didn’t show.  We actually found out from another neighbor.  He also mentioned having a card for us and needing to get it to us….this was 14 months ago..haha.

    The last two no-shows were a couple we are friends with.  We had a feeling they may not show because her baby due date was 3 days after the wedding!  🙂  We told them to just come if they can.  In this case, we didn’t mind paying in case they showed up.

    We also had one cousin RSVP for 2, but come alone.  He “gave” his date to his brother (who had RSVPed for 1) but ended up bringing a friend.  Hey, we didn’t care…we payed regardless!

    Post # 15
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    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We had 7 people not come. 2 told us right away that they were stuck in awful traffic from a bad accident. 5 people (a married couple and their 3 children) apparently came to the ceremony (15 minutes long) but left immediately afterward, before the sit-down dinner reception. I didn’t see them at all and have not heard from them since…I figure their kids were acting up or something. Kinda rude, but…meh.

    Post # 16
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    We had quite a few no-shows.  6 were all in one family – one of them had fallen ill and they were at his bedside which was several hours away.  We heard from our groomsmen that he has cards from a couple of them, which is nice.  2 were a friend of mine and her live-in-boyfriend.  She said she had a headache, but never gave us a card or congratulations.  This has since put a damper on our friendship.  2 were my Great Aunt (in her late 70’s) and her hubby.  She wasn’t feeling well, which is understandable. 10 seems like an awful lot of regrets, but sometimes unavoidable. 

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