(Closed) How many people do/did you have to talk to about engagement/wedding stuffs?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you talk to people (family or friends) about your BF potentially proposing?

    Yes - everyone I could!

    Yes - but only to one or two close people

    No - they seemed really weird when I brought it up

    No - it's super tactless to talk about that before he actually pops the question!!

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee

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    scipioblack :  So I talk to my mom and sisters about it, but I know that my boyfriend wouldn’t tell them about his plans, so they’re kind of like, “it’s so exciting!” but there’s also not any specific plan or issue, so we generally move on pretty quickly.

    It sounds like your family might know (or at least think they know) something about your BF’s plans, and don’t want to risk it, or they don’t know anything but want to help you take it one step at a time. Either way, it’s hard to not talk about it, but keep posting around here! It’s a great outlet!

    Happy waiting, bee!

    Post # 3
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    Newbee

    It sounds like they might be in on the proposal and don’t want to ruin it.  I know I wouldn’t be slick enough to play it cool if someone was asking me!

    I talk to my mom and close friends about getting engaged a lot because I’ve been waiting for a long time.  I assume that none of them are in on anything because everyone is basically like, “I have no idea what he’s waiting for and I don’t understand why he hasn’t proposed” yet….so there’s that side of the coin!

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I talk to his best friend’s wife, his sister in law, and my first ex (who is my best guy friend after SO) about it, but really more of the omigosh I want to marry him, here are pretty rings I like, and we will get engaged in about a year. I don’t talk about planning, mainly because I don’t want to lol 

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

    Your mom and sister’s reaction is so similar to that of an older colleague of mine. I found out recently that she is the wife of a pastor – I wonder if her religious beliefs attributed to that? 

    Other than that, everyone I have spoken to about it has been incredibly excited for me. My SO is planning to propose to me in December!

    I am excited for you!!! Not long before the proposal now! 

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    My family was hesitant for a while. Especially my dad. Until my BF went to ask for my parent’s blessing, and showed them the ring, my dad especially kept asking questions that essentially amounted to “are you really sure he’s actually going to do it?” It could be because my sister had some drama revolving around her ex proposing to her, and so my family didn’t want to get too excited if he was just stringing me along or not serious with the follow through. Could be that too. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    To be honest I’ve been talking about my SO potentially proposing since my second date with him – I used to call him “my future husband” lol. so now 6 years later when he is actually going to propose i think my friends just think I am talking about it like I always have. In the last few years they’ve sorted just saying yep, yep, and not talking about it much as I think they have heard it to death.. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    His friends, and my friends basically.  Everyone asks when it’s going to happen.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee

    I think they might know something too. If it’s sudden and out of charcter then they likely have some new inside knowledge and are afraid of runing the surprise! I hope it is soon for you!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

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    scipioblack :  I’m in a similar situation. I’m pretty sure it’s happening this weekend and I’m losing it. 

    I have only talked to my best friend and my sister about it, but they both seem like they don’t really want to talk about it and when I ponder what is going on they say “don’t you want it to be a surprise?”

    sounds like it’s going to be soon for you too! Make sure you keep us posted!! 

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I’ve learned that it’s better to be guarded about the “waiting” process if you have friends who are at all bitter or jealous. Once you get engaged, make the announcement and then be careful not to share too much with anyone who would resent your happiness. 

     

    Sorry to sound cynical: I made the mistake of telling my friends when my SO and I started looking at rings and I suffered some serious backlash. It’s just something to consider. 

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