(Closed) How many people have you and your SO/FI/DH slept with, combined?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How many people have you and your SO/FI/Dh slept with combined, including each other?
    1-5 : (103 votes)
    27 %
    6-10 : (43 votes)
    11 %
    11-15 : (27 votes)
    7 %
    16-20 : (31 votes)
    8 %
    21-25 : (17 votes)
    4 %
    26+ : (58 votes)
    15 %
    We have been with a fairly even amount of people : (22 votes)
    6 %
    I have been with much more than SO/FI/DH : (45 votes)
    12 %
    SO/FI/DH has been with much more than me : (34 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Exactly even. We are both in our early twenties and my husband and I have had one sexual partner before this (so the count is 4 for both of us, including each other). 

    Post # 3
    Member
    42 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 18, and he’s my only one but he’s done it with two other girls too. Does it ever bother you that he has such a bigger number than you? I used to care but I think just cause he was my first and only. And if iT All goes how we are planning he will be my only! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Two, we were each other’s first and only.

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  headlighted.
    Post # 5
    Member
    8686 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I dont know the exact number. I know my number is higher than his. I didn’t know people really thought about this past….college?

    Post # 6
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I don’t know. I’ve never asked him how many women he’s slept with, doesn’t really matter. However, knowing him I’d expect its higher than mine but not that much higher.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    gelaine22:  +1 This never crosses my mind…ancient history. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I don’t know.  I’m pretty sure his number is higher than mine though.  I’ve never asked and he’s never asked me.  It hasn’t been something I’ve thought to ask about actually and he doesn’t seem to care either.

    Post # 11
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    gingerkitten:  I was 29 and he was 33 when we met. 

    Its like you said – the past is the past and its irrelevant…so why even discuss it. We had both been recently tested when we started having intercourse and we discussed being monogamous. And of course I have my IUD to avoid pregnancy (we don’t want kids). Thats all that really matters.

    We’ve discussed relevant aspects of prior relationships, if it was pertinent. But I don’t really get why anyone would want to start discussing exactly how many partners they’d had or what they’d done in the past. Its either irrelevant like you said and doesn’t need to be discussed or its going to cause problems because one or both partners will be bothered by it. For us, its irrelevant – I’ve never really thought about it beyond “he’s really good at that, thank GOD for his prior experience” 😉 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You don’t have an option for “don’t know and don’t care.” Why on earth would anyone even discuss this?

    Post # 14
    Member
    1983 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We’ve only been with each other.

    Post # 15
    Member
    3305 posts
    Sugar bee

    My SO lost his virginity when he was 14. I was almost 19. I don’t know his exact number – we haven’t asked eachother, but I am 99% sure his would double my number, or more…

    The topic ‘How many people have you and your SO/FI/DH slept with, combined?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors