MemberI had one boyfriend before my husband. We dated for four years, started seeing each other my junior year of high school, and I broke up with him my junior year of college. He wasn’t a jerk or anything; we just seriously drifted apart. When you’ve heard the same joke three days in a row, and he’s laughing hysterically each time, and you’re not, it gets old.
MemberI’ve had 4 boyfriends before meeting the love of my life. Except for one, none of them was really serious ( less than 4 months). I was with my first one for almost 3 years.
SO is the only one I’ve had that “Ok he’s definitely the One, you can stop looking now” feeling.
MemberI’ve only had 3. I talked to a few boys on the phone, but bf number one lasted about 2 weeks, bf number two lasted about 1 week, and bf number 3 is future hubby! We have been together for over 7 years. 3rd time was the charm in my case!
MemberI called 6 other guys “boyfriend” before my husband. Of those, only two of them lasted longer than 6 months (those two were about 3 years each, one in high school, one in college). The others ranged from 3 weeks (cheated on me with a good friend–hard feelings are passed, it was a long time ago, and they’re married now..) to 4 months. The two long ones were the only ones I considered serious. I dated my husband for 4 years before we got married.
MemberNot including my Fiance, I’ve had 3 boyfriends with relationships that lasted 2-3 years each. I did go on 1 or 2 first dates, but wouldn’t consider that dating/boyfriends.
MemberI can relate. I had one serious relationship before this one and I started dating at 18. I had the fake middle school bf who you thought you were dating but nothing ever happened haha.
MemberI voted three, but I was including my guy. One was when I was eighteen – the guy was planning a proposal when I dumped him for being controlling. One was when I was 21/22. I’d known him for 7 years, but didn’t know he was as crazy as he was. I had about half a dozen first dates, two guys I kind of hung out with (but we couldn’t get up the gumption to ask each other out), and one guy I e-mailed with for about 6 months (we walked up to each other all excited, got a good look at each other, and both lost interest. Good for a friend, but there was NO attraction on either side. He’s engaged to a straight-laced English-Indian law student, and I have a goofy-looking gamer, and we’re both very happy with our partners.)
MemberI’ve never had a serious relationship with anyone but Darling Husband. I’d been on other dates through HS and college but until DH’s and my friendship grew into something more in my junior year of college – I’d never had a boyfriend.
I credit a lot of this to two things. First, I was always “one of the guys” and through that was able to learn what I wanted in a man without necessarily having BFs. Second, I refused to get in a serious relationship with someone I wasn’t good friends with first – it was just a thing for me. Kind of a “How do I know I actually want to date you if I don’t know you well enough to already be really good friends?” Took over two years before Darling Husband and I progressed from friends to BF/GF but it was totally worth the wait! 🙂
MemberI would say none. He is my first boyfriend and this is his first serious relationship.
MemberHe’s my first relationship ever. I’m technically his second, but he dated that girl for 2 weeks in high school, sooo… I don’t really count that. 🙂
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MemberI have had 3 serious realationships (including FI). I dated my first Boyfriend or Best Friend for 2 years LDR when I was 16. I met my Fiance while I was dating the LD Boyfriend or Best Friend. Since I had a Boyfriend or Best Friend, Fiance and I remained friends (I was very attracted to him though so it was hard to resist!). I lost touch with Fiance for awhile then started dating another guy I met for 2 1/2 years. Broke up with that douche and then caught back up with Fiance (my friend happened to bump into him at college and told him I was single and to call me. She always knew he had a thing for me). He called 20min later and asked to meet for coffee and the rest is history….
Member1 in middle school (that I don’t count, huge disaster)+ 3 in high school (one short lived one I haven’t talked to in years, one that lasted about half a year that I’m now friends with, one that lasted a little over a year that thought we were wedding bound, no longer talk to him)+ FH in College
FH has only had one other relationship and that was back when he was in undergrad. She turned out to be more than slightly unstable and it lasted for about 2 months.
MemberJust one. He turned into a fiance. Works for me, I like to keep things simple. 🙂
MemberI had a ton. Darling Husband had not even one G/F before me. I’m grateful he kept things simple for us. I really had a lot of growing up to do. My poor exes.
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