(Closed) how many people is too many for a baby shower?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How many people on average come to a baby shower?
    5-10 : (3 votes)
    4 %
    10-20 : (19 votes)
    27 %
    20-30 : (28 votes)
    40 %
    more than 30 : (20 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Most of the bridal showers I have been to have been around 50 or so, but mainly because I come from an extremely large family. I would talk to your friend about the guest list and make sure that all those invited are either family or close family friends. No need to pull people out of the woodwork for a bridal shower, however if she does invite a lot of people who she isn’t close to I would imagine most would just send a gift and not show up.

    Post # 4
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My SILs baby shower had about 35 people. I didnt think it was too big.

    Post # 5
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @tallgal: I agree, most of them I’ve been to are 40-60 people

    Post # 6
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    @tallgal: Wow, that is a lot. My baby shower was girls-only, I invited 17 and 15 came. I once hosted a coed shower, and I think the invite list was around 30, several of whom were out-of-town family members who couldn’t come but liked being included… I think we had around 20 show up for that one. I also went to another coed shower-like-event (no presents, it was more a casual ‘last cocktail party before baby, so come by and hang out’ kinda thing) and that was probably about 30 people, but it was co-hosted by 3 or 4 couples and didn’t aim to provide that much food since it started at 9 PM.

    Post # 7
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    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The ones I’ve been to have been between 20 and 30. Just tell her that you’re sorry, but you didn’t realize it would be so big, and that you can only afford to host X number of people.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee

    70 is a little extreme, espcecially considering she is having 5 showers!!! Most I have been to have been around 30 people or so. The biggest one probably was around 40-50, but she had a really large family. It sounds like your friend might just be inviting anyone she knows so she can get “free stuff”. Maybe remind her that it should only be family and close friends.

    Post # 9
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    5153 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had 3 baby showers. One was small, only about 15 people and the other two were both large (one family and one work) with about 30-40 people.

    70 seems like a crazy number to me but I guess that may only be because I’ve never been to a baby shower that large! I’ve been to ones with 40something but never more then that.

     

    Post # 9
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee

    “She keeps telling me this is her last chance to get “free stuff””

    What you should do is dump this grubber and get a new friend.  That really sounds horrible.

    In all seriousness though, I think you should do what you feel comfortable with (money and time wise). Are the other bmaids involved?

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Just tell her how many you can afford. You shouldn’t be put out because she has a huge list. Although if you consider that it’s a couples shower 50 people is only 25 couples. I had a list of about 35 for my ladies-only shower so if I’d invited spouses it would have been much more.

    Post # 11
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I also think that the appropriateness of the size also kind of depends on who/how many are hosting. Feeding, inviting, entertaining 70 people is a very different prospect if you are the only host vs. if you are sharing the duties with 3 other people.

    Post # 12
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ouch! I would talk to her and let her know about how many people you can fit (budget and space-wise). Her last chance to get free stuff really shouldn’t cost you an arm and a leg. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have been to a few with 20 people, all the way up to about 85 people. I agree with Lozza; it is unreasonable to host a shower for 70 people by yourself. The 85 guest baby shower I went to a month ago had 7 hostesses. I would either tell her you cannot throw a shower for that many, or find some more people who are willing to help you out. 

    Post # 15
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I don’t think I’d even KNOW 70 people who wouldn’t already have been invited to one of my previous FOUR showers in this case!

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