Post # 17
@troubled: Well said. I’ve expressed in the past that I’d rather have a C-Section just because the whole idea of labor freaks me out, and I know two people that had major complications during theirs. The other ladies I was with went on a rampage against me for saying that. They made it out to be that I was less of a woman for not thinking childbirth is a beautiful thing.
I think if you opt for a C-Section you get judged way more, kind of similiar to the whole breastfeeding v. formula debate.
Post # 18
@troubled: yea, things didnt COMPLETELY go back to normal after an episiotomy for me 🙁 I think thats definately why alot of women want a c-section. But I dont think that’s a good enough reason to justify wanting one.
Post # 19
In the US it is still a minority of women who opt for a c-section without medical reason to do so, but many women here are pushed to have one by their doctors. This is due in part to how our doctors are trained (they are taught how to do a c-section, but not all are taught what natural birth looks like) and in part to how litigious America is. A doctor is much more likely to be sued for negligence for NOT doing everything possible than if he does everything he can think of, even things that aren’t medically necessary. As a result, delivery doctors often err on the side of “doing something” which includes interventions that carry a risk of subsequent c-section.
Moreover, hospitals here do not often allow a laboring woman access to natural intenventions that can reduce pain (such as laboring in water, food and water during labor, privacy, and freedom of movement) or hasten delivery (such as trying different labor positions). Many women are routinely given pitocin without medical need, which causes unnaturally painful contractions. Therefore many American women are subject to unnecessarily long and painful deliveries, which can exhaust a mother and cause her to need a c-section.
Post # 20
@retsud: Boo on them for saying c-section kids don’t bond with their mothers. I, along with my 2 bros & sis were all born C-section. We’re tight with our mom.
I hate it when news sources or people try to scare women or make others feel bad about their decisions. I think whatever works for each individual is fine. If a woman WANTS a c-section. Cool. If she has complications and needs a c-section. Cool. If she WANTS a natural birth. Cool. Drugs or no drugs. Cool.
There are pros and cons to everything. I don’t like docs pushing things on women if there’s not a medical reason, but I also like that women can choose to have a c-section if they desire.
Post # 21
@FreeRangeMom: Very well written, and I agree with all that you said.
Post # 22
@retsud: Hope that isn’t true (babies aren’t as bonded with mothers!)…did they say why?
I don’t have a choice. I’m having a myomectomy in two weeks (fibroid removal). Once you have that surgery, you can’t ever have a vaginal birth. I’ll have to have a c-section for each and every baby we have. Not my preference, but I’m just happy that after this surgery I’ll be able to get pregnant and hopefully have a healthy baby!
Post # 23
@FreeRangeMom: hospitals do allow you to labor in water and move around, but i do believe its at the discretion of the hospital and the doctor. they just do not allow you to give birth in the tub, which is such a shame. you can always go the doula route. i have also heard of women pushing the hospital (legally) in order to have the kind of birth they want.
Post # 24
I refuse to have a C-section unless mine or the baby’s life is in danger without one. In all other case (besides medically necessary), it is a completely unnescessary surgery and risk IMO.
Post # 25
I was considering a C section, my girlfriend had one last minute and she was going to do all natural birth but says that she absolutely does not recommend a c section, it is painfull and recovery is hard
Post # 26
All of this sounds terrifying to me. I’m not even 5 feet tall and I’m really scared of having complications or really painful delivery because of how small I am. I would prefer to do a natural water birth. My friend was planning on having a home water birth and while we were visiting her they said her blood pressure was abnormal and she was rushed to the hospital, given drugs and made to have the baby right then. She was so upset and they didn’t work with her at all, and I’m so scared that will happen to me too. I keep hearing all these stories about doctors doing whatever they want in the US and never really considering the mother. We’re not planning on having a baby for another couple of years but I think about this all the time.
Post # 27
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I don’t think you’d really want to “opt” to have a c-section. You can, but your insurance won’t cover it because it’s elective and not medically necessary. Not sure you really want to pay for a major surgery out of pocket.
Post # 28
Without going on a huge rant (which I could, because I’m really passionate about this issue) – yes, the C-section rate is huge in the US compared with the rest of the world. Essentially, the biomedical complex has such support within our culture that we take whatever doctors say as gospel. However, the labor and delivery process in the U.S. works against nature in many ways and preferences the doctors’ and hospitals’ efficiency and schedule over the mother’s.
With all that in mind, I have an uphill climb once I’m ready to have kids – my SO is the son of a doctor and has full faith in modern medicine. I’ve told him that I probably want to do home birth, and he’s not comfortable with that, so we’ll have some serious discussions and compromises to make.
Post # 29
To shed some light on the “Not bonding with baby if you have a C-section” that is a HUGE subject that has many factors to take into considaration. Number one, there is no hard evidence that says “You will NOT bond with your child if you have a needed C-Section”. That is wayyy to judgemental and even though its not completely true, its not all false either. It all depends on the circumstances of why the mother had a C-section, how smoothly the birthing process went and the mothers feelings towards her birth experience.
When I had my C-section I wasn’t allowed to hold my son and didn’t meet him until he was 28 hours old. I still cried like a baby the first time I held him and immidetly knew this is my baby and I love him more then anything. I did however have some bonding issues the first few days after. My husband had to give him his first bath, feeding and hold him all before me and without me present. Those were all things that I had to learn after him. That part of the bonding did take time.
I hate the people who say mothers who have C-sections don’t bond. That is the most stupid and heartless thing someone could say about a mother. There are WAY to many factors to take in to give such a harsh judgment.
Bonding for mother and child doesn’t begin at birth. It begins the moment your pregnancy tests reads positive. The birth is just the next chapter in your relationship together.
Post # 30
@MissFlipFlops: Thank you sooo much for sharing your story. I was upset to see that written (lack of bond with baby due to c-section). It’s not like I have a choice. I WANT to have a regular birth, but won’t be able to. I don’t see how that could ultimately affect the bond. OK, so I won’t be able to do a few things in the few days following the birth (as you mentioned), but I’ll have had the ninth months of pregnancy bond and I agree with you on that the bond starts with getting the positive preg. test. 🙂 Thank you!
Post # 31
@Edina: I don’t see a natural childbirth as a “total loss of dignity”! You are bringing a baby into the world and letting your body do what it was built to do! No, it’s not the prettiest process, but I don’t know a single woman who feels they lost their dignity in giving birth to their child.
Over 30% of all deliveries in the US are made by c-section, only a small percentage of those were scheduled c-sections, more than half of them were done because of “failure to progress” and a huge percentage of those were in women who were induced. People are too impatient these days – just let it happen, because it will! It’s how God and nature intended it to be!
Yes, there are emergencies that occur that make a c-section necessary, and it’s amazing that we have a life saving procedure that can help a mother and baby and doctors that are able to perform them. But that is actually a very small percentage of births. In most cases, even if it’s not elected, it’s still not medically necessary.
If you are pregnant, do your homework. There are tons of books and resources about birth – you don’t have to be scared, educate yourself and get comfortable with the process. Talk to your doctor, talk to other moms, call a midwife or doula – get all of your information and then make your choice on the best way for YOU to deliver YOUR baby. Your body, your baby, your choice.
And whatever you choose, don’t let anyone judge you for it (even if it’s not what you would choose for yourself). I plan to have an unmedicated, natural birth (G-d willing) but if you educate yourself and think it’s not for you, well, good luck. All we really want is healthy babies, right?