How many people RSVP'd no?

posted 11 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
877 posts
Busy bee

Your acceptance rate has nothing to do with any other couple’s wedding. Some people have 100% accept; others have 70% decline.  The only “safe” thing to do is to invite only the amount of people who fit in your venue and who you can afford to pay for- inviting any more than the limit will only cause you undue stress.  Since your STD’s have already gone out, it’s too late to cut the guest list and you’ll just have to hope for less….though a smarter plan would be to save more money in case 100% really do accept. 


We had 2 or 3 couples rsvp yes and then not be able to make it due to illness or other issues. We did have to pay for them because they were included in our final catering  headcount 10-14 days out.

Post # 17
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

We invited 80, and had 74 RSVP yes.  Two no-shows on the day due to illness, so 72 in total attended.

Post # 18
386 posts
Helper bee

We had a small ceremony and reception as I have anxiety and wanted to elope! (Our families were upset at the idea so we invited about 60 of our family and closest friends).

Darling Husband had around 30 RSVP and all arrived, I ended up having 7. Yep, 7! Over 20 cancelled on that morning, even after travel plans had been arranged. Although upset (all family members), I’ve not actually been in contact with any of them since (for 2 years), not by choice, they’ve never spoke to me, even on FB, so not my loss!

It was upsetting due to having a seating chart but other than that, it mean’t more cake for me 😉

Post # 19
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We invited like 200 and had 170 come. Invited some people we knew would decline (they live in South Africa or Chile and too expensive). 

We had 2 people say they weren’t coming after I gave final numbers (which I gave 2 days before the wedding and they couldn’t have told me before…) but I managed to find 1 person to fill that spot. We had 2 no shows on the day of because she was “sick”…we had already paid so lost money but oh well. 

Post # 20
3595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

elleleigh :  so many more than we expected! We had an ideal size on our heads of 125; we invite close to 200, and thought about 150 of those were probable….we had 88. 88!!! Which wound up being perfect, but man i was so sad for a while feeling like no one was coming when over 50% declined. Point being – you can’t count anything anyone says now. Plans change, expenses add up, and there is no such thing as a yes rsvp now for next June. 

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